Another Isfj

Hello all,

I recently took a personality test and it was concluded that I am an ISFJ, which after researching much on personalities, I would say is the most accurate. I would say as far as others go, I am more introverted than most, at least in real life situations. Online, I am much more active in communication as I am active on at least three different forums daily. I would say that the most interesting aspect of an ISFJ is that many are in favor of giving more than recieving, which would explain my romantic orientation. I am what is known as a demilithromantic, which means that in a relationship, I like to love, care for, and provide for my love interest, but do not require them to feel the same way about me, or love, care for, or provide for in the same way as I do them. I will post the full synopsis below. If sexuality is brought up, I will say that I am asexual, which means that I have no interest in having sexual intercourse with anyone as I never have any desire to. Again, I will post a full synopsis below. So, I hope to meet others, learn new experiences, and build my knowledge.

Likes: Psychology, fitness, (some) video games, martial arts, nature, plants, Zen, meditation.

Dislikes: Arguments over religion and/or politics(everyone has their own opinion, let us agree to disagree), social normalities, biscuit canisters(Scare the crap out of me, no joke).

Lithromantic: Lithromantics are individuals who experience romantic love but do not desire their feelings to be reciprocated. Lithromantic people may want to avoid dating and romantic relationships entirely, or may be comfortable with such a relationship or even desire it, as long as their love is not returned in a romantic way. (Some lithromantics may even accept reciprocated love, but do not require it to find a relationship fulfilling, as most romantics do.) <--Me.

Asexual: An asexual is someone who does not experience sexual attraction. Unlike celibacy, which people choose, asexuality is an intrinsic part of who we are. Asexuality does not make our lives any worse or any better, we just face a different set of challenges than most sexual people. There is considerable diversity among the asexual community; each asexual person experiences things like relationships, attraction, and arousal somewhat differently.

Thank you all for reading,
ThePeanutTerminator ThePeanutTerminator
3 Responses Apr 22, 2012

i am also an isfj, but i'm pretty much completely lithromantic and im also a grey-romantic :)

asexual to me sounds more like when you've experienced all there is to experience sexually and are now bored of it

Asexuality is the lack of or nonexistance of sexual attraction. One who is asexual can still be interested in people and even wish to seek a rleationship with someone, but they have no need, nor want for sex.

well the good thing about that is, it would result in good, moral behavior on the person's part.

Hi Peanut Terminator, I too am an ISFJ and would love to correspond with you further. I've never done this before but has always wanted to.
One thing I'd like to understand further if it isn't too personal, about you being a demilithromantic. Are you saying that you dont have the desire to be loved? Or am I missing something? Again if it isnt too personal I would really love to understand.