My Name Is Lanie, And I'm An Older Mom

I became an "older mom" at 51.  My husband and I adopted a baby girl from China, and it was the scariest thing I've ever done - and the thing I am most proud of in my whole life.  My daughter is now almost 14 and her dad and I are divorced.  So that makes me an older, SINGLE mom of a teenager!!  She is well-adjusted, happy and secure, and beautiful.  I remember when we were in China with other Americans that were adopting Chinese children, I saw a single mom that had adopted a 12 year old girl.  Neither one spoke each other's language at the time, but they were always holding hands and smiling at each other.  I think of them often now.  If there are any drawbacks to being an older mom, it's finding enough energy and stamina to get through the day.  I'm looking forward to meeting other moms like me - I must say that it gets lonely sometimes.  I'm either trying to fit in with 30-40 year olds with young teenagers - or 60 year olds with grandkids!  Please write soon.    

lanie39 lanie39
61-65, F
4 Responses Oct 21, 2009

Hi Lanie, I totally relate to you. Seems we don't fit in do we? I know that it is hard being a single mom because I did it for a short time with my oldest son. You can count on me to be a good listener, okay?

Congrats to you for adopting! I'm 51 and my daughter is 6 months old. Everyone assumes that she's my granddaughter but she's mine! I went to a playgroup recently, and I was older than the mothers of the mothers there! Yikes!!! That's why I'm looking for an older mothers group to share experiences with! Glad to meet you ladies!

yes, it seems as tho we aren't the norm. My son is 2 yrs old and I'm 46. You guys are the reason why I'm here... lets share our experiences and feel "normal"!! (((hugs))) to both of you!

i understand how you feel. i am also older and a nice big baby so i do know how not fitting in is, and the lonelyness at times is very bad,