Am I Wrong?

I have two daughters, one 23 and one 26.  My eldest is pursuing a doctorate degree at Duke Univ. so she is not around but calls on occasion.  My youngest is living at home after graduating college; she is now pursuing a degree in nursing.  I have paid for her driving lessons (she never was interested in driving until now, for she has to go to nursing school every day now).  Not once has she said thanks mom for paying for my lessons.  She is abrupt and what we used to call "fresh" back in the day.  I am being honored at a dinner dance for an education foundation that I helped founded ten years ago and she said she wouldn't go because she wouldn't know anyone there.  When she's mouthy to me my husband won't stand up for me, he says "don't get me involved in your problems".  I really feel that I am very unappreciated.  I also have problems with my mother.  I am about at my wits end and don't know what to do.  It's really a very long story but this is the gist of it.  Just venting.


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2 Responses Mar 2, 2009

as a 22 almost 23 year old nursing student who works full time pays her own rent and utilities and everything to do with my car by myself. i would like to say thank you for everything you are doing for your daughter and <br />
((((((((HUGS)))))))))) you seem to me to be an excellent mommy and i am greatful for you!<br />

No, my daughter has not always been this way. She is really a very happy go lucky person but recently has become very opinionated (well she is 23) and she can only see her side of a story. She'll get very snippy if you don't agree with her and she knows when she's hurt my feelings etc. and will never ever say I'm sorry. She is living at home only until she graduates and then she will be moving out. Her boyfriend lives in Syracuse (we live on Long Island) so she very rarely sees him which I'm sure is making it rough on her. My mother is a recluse; she is on medication for anxiety and depression. Some days she's happy and other days she's miserable. I try to visit her once a week to take her shopping but lately she makes up illnesses so that she doesn't have to leave the house. She gives me the shopping list and I go by myself. She is a very strange woman. By the way I'm 55 and my mother is 78 going on 100. I could write volumes about her. I am going to visit my oldest daughter on Thursday for the weekend and can't wait to get out of NY. I think the main problem here is that I've done everything for these people (my husband included) and that they just expect it all the time; cooking, cleaning, making appointments, etc. I should really just go on strike. Yes my husband always go to these dinners but I know he'd rather be at home watching TV.