No Job, No Money, No Life

Since 3.5 years I am jobless and it is killing me... I can't do anything, am depend on my husband, I have no independence.

What does this cause;
- I want to leave my husband, I can't coz I can't rent a place for myself,
- I want to go up country to stay with a friend, I can't coz, can't afford moving fee,
- I can't go out,
- I can't buy somethings for my dog and myself
- I can't go and visit my family and friends because they are aboard,
More over; I can't even move back to my home town again no money to rent a place for myself and can't live with my parents with my dog!!!!!

Money is the biggest power in the world, don't take me wrong I don't live on money, I don;t give toss about it but unfortunately, can't do without it. Never wanted to have lots of lots of money, just enough for freedom...  People want to win 85m from lottery, I want 85+people to win that 85m.

So folks, here I am STUCK....

haveadrink haveadrink
46-50, F
2 Responses Jun 23, 2011

Can you live with your parents if you build your dog an outside kennel for him to live in? or can you get your dog rehomed is your happiness worth more than the love you have for your dog

Hi there,<br />
I'm sorry you haven't received a reply yet, but you are definitely not alone. I am in the same position as you, except I am not married.<br />
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If I may ask, why do you want to leave your husband? Is it because of these issues you're experiencing, or is it separate from all of this?<br />
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I think the first step would be to find a job - and yes, that isn't easy. I've been looking for SO long, and the best I have found is minor freelance jobs online that pay you about $5. Even if you do many of them, it doesn't add up to anything you can LIVE off of.<br />
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There's a lot to recommend: any kind of low-level job (fast food, etc.), tutoring, babysitting, part-time seasonal work (gardening, town events, carnivals/theme parks, etc.). But it is easy to recommend, and not so easy to actually get. There are people who are desperate for a job that they will work as anything at all, even something that is "beneath" them or seen as very poor work, so if you have those inhibitions, perhaps let them go. When a person is desperate for a job, they can't afford to be too picky about it - obviously, keep in mind your health and physical abilities, but don't turn down a job just because it isn't your ideal job. It is hard enough to find work right now, and turning down a paying job, if it is being offered, will just set you back.<br />
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All you can do is keep trying, stay positive, and don't give up. Getting a job will be your first step, and it's the hardest obstacle to overcome. Once you pass that, the rest will come, so let that be your hope and goal. <br />
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There's no guaranteed success - I am proof of that. But I have a hope that a job, even something low-level, will be offered to me after all the effort I'm putting in. I figure that once I manage to get a job, I will be able to have some money, and then I will be able to go out and have a life.