I Just Need Somebody To Love!

So people don't get me or my androgynous style. Maybe that's why I'm single or maybe its because I'm just being myself and some people are afraid they can't handle it. Well! I need someone who is willing to want to, protect me, not be ashamed to love me, and accept everything that I am as I would to them. I know I would be a fantastic lover! Unfortunately it seems people are scared of different or loving someone different. When your androgynous or a pansexual as I am, everything seem so much harder when it comes to finding a soulmate. So many times where I have hoped for friends or family to find true love and happiness, even going out of my way to encourage them. No one ever does that for me, it's like they all kind of know I'm going to have everything much harder because I am so complicated! I am 21 years old and single. I know that I'm one he'll of a lover! Will anything ever change? I'm not hopeless because i am a dreamer, but still. I just need somebody to love.
AndrogynousBeauty AndrogynousBeauty
3 Responses Sep 25, 2012

First of all, I think I ought to thank you for your positive comments on my "Insignificant Others" story.

Secondly, I would like to share with you a couple of things I have learned from life. At nearly 53 years of age (ancient I know compared to you) I have been fortunate to have been exposed to a great deal of wide-ranging experiences in life and as a result - combined with an enquiring mind and a good deal of cogitative reflection and analysis - I have learned many things from people and from life.

As far as finding a special person with whom to share and to experience life, I have found that one is more likely to find what you're looking for when you stop looking. When you actively look for someone, your mind becomes preoccupied with that quest and you become closed to new experiences and opportunities. It is only when your mind is open that you recognise potential; relax, stop looking and love will come to find you. Each of the major relationships in my own life have come at a time when the last thing I was thinking of or expecting was to find love.

I now have a partner who understands me, appreciates me for who and what I am and encourages me to be myself. She herself is bisexual and so finds that in an androgynous partner such as I that she has the best of both worlds. She recently told me that when we first kissed, the thing that stood out to her was that I kissed like a girl. When we first made love, it was like something she had never experienced before - a man who would connect with her on an emotional level rather than just focussing on the physical aspects of love-making. She says that in me, she enjoys the physical aspects of making love with a man and the emotional aspects of making love with a woman.

I know that she is not the only person in the world who would treasure this combination. There are many others who will value the love of a person who can give them more than they would otherwise get from a traditional male/female relationship. Give yourself time and space, allow yourself to experience life and trust that, when the time is right for you, the right person will come into your life and you will find one another.

Wishing you love


This is the most heartfelt thing something has ever told me.<3 Thank you so much for your kindness and wisdom. I will never forget your words. oh and by the way age is nothing but a number. and wisdom comes from all ages you are one of a kind. I can't wait to experience more things in life and now i will focus on my dreams and let love come soaring in when it is the right time.^_^ Thank goodness for ppl you! Thank you<333

There is someone out there who will accept you. My partner is flipping awesome on his acceptance of me being androgynous - in fact, he finds it rather sexy :)

Luckyyyyy!:O Im still looking. there is someone for everyone.

I know exactly what you mean! I'm so tired of waiting that I'm actually SEARCHING for the one. LOL. My friends always come to me about advice and never have I asked anyone for anything. It's like they don't really know who I am, and that's true because I'm not that open about myself. But I'm so ready to talk to others and find love!

Yes! you should!:D And the fact that you are aware and open then you should start your search. Its true we can't always be the ones to wait for it to come to us. We need to find that special person. You will be better in a relationship because you desire it, which will probably help you find have a long lasting healthy relationship.