I Am Angry With My Brother
This is going to be a long story. But basically I am 25 and my brother is 16.
Less than two years after I got married my mother asked me if I'd return home and take care of her house, her properties, and her children (my bro and sis, 14 and 17 at the time) while she went to work as a translator for the military. In exchange she would cover rent and household bills, which would help hubby and I save for a home.
My husband and I agreed- and since March of 2007 we left our lives and came to live back home.
Some info- my brother is very spoiled, rarely, if ever told no when he wants something, gets video games all the time, and when my mom was leaving he was actually happy because he said she rarely let him go out. He plays video games at least 7 hours a day on weekdays and at least twice that on weekends. His friends come over or he goes to their house and they just play MORE video games!
This past Wednesday night my brother decides that he's not going to school on Friday because THURSDAY night he is going to a MIDNIGHT party for a video game. I told him no, but Friday after work I'd take him to pick up the game and then if he wants drive him to a friends house where he can spend the night and play the game.
He has a fit, he begs and begs, I say no, you aren't missing school and that's final. He has bad grades also, he's a C/D student. So he yells and argues with me and I was like that's enough, no matter what you are NOT going.
So he is like "well I'm running away!" And he walks out, I tell him get back to the house, he leaves. I'm like whatever go cool off. After a bit I call his dad (parents are divorced) and tell him the situation and my dad calls him and tells him to come home.
He comes home all angry, and by this time I've removed his computer from his room and told him to clean his room and then he can have his computer back. He stomps to his room and about ten minutes later I walk to his room to talk to him and he's GONE- screen is pushed out and he's totally gone.
I call my dad, tell my dad I refuse to look for him, and I'm calling the police.
My dad ends up finding him, and I tell my dad that he is not allowed back to the house so my brother is now living with my father.
My mom has been made aware of the situation and she said she's very disapointed in my brother. But today she sends me an email saying that she talked to my brother and he said it's not just the game, but that he's tired of the "situation" at home. My mom didn't elaborate on the situation, but I was like mom he's so FULL OF IT. There is NO situation, he's just mad cuz I told him no about some video game.
And honestly I do not believe there is one- this is just another spoiled brat tantrum. For halloween I threw him a party and he invited his friends and I spent a few hundred dollars on food and decorations and costumes, and he's "tired of the situation?"
He barely has any chores, only to water the lawn, mow the lawn, and take out the trash, and I always have to remind him to do ALL of these things AND he never mows the lawn or waters it. He will be 17 next month and has never worked a day in his life.
I'm just really annoyed right now- and I am not allowing him to return home- which I am sure after two weeks he'll ask to come home- when he finds out dad isn't going to give him everything either. I know my dad's wife isn't going to be happy either, but honestly I don't care- it's their responsibility now!