You Lazy Bum!I just became acquainted with a man who is 42 years old and doesn't work because he says he "has performance anxiety", which makes it impossible for him to keep a job. He lives with his parents and relies on them to supply him with everything- his food, his therapy, his medications, and his clothing/toiletries. However, he loves photography and often goes out to offer his services as a photographer to total strangers and groups of people. He goes to the movies, goes out to eat, goes to malls, etc. Seems perfectly normal and not anxious at all to me.
He is very friendly (according to his words), and is excited to meet new people in hopes of having a girlfriend. I asked him if he is on medication for the anxiety and he claims he is but that it "doesn't do much" for him. So I suggested he change how he eats and perhaps get a walk every day. He claims that he has tried both of those methods and they "didn't do anything" for him. (Somehow I doubt that.) So then I asked him what he plans to do. He answered: "I hope to get disability benefits, then I can get my photography business off the ground and move out of my parents' house."
Now... here's my question: If he's not too "anxious" about walking up to total strangers and asking if they need a photographer, then PERFORMING THAT JOB FOR THEM, why can he not get a regular job like everyone else? Why is a 9-5 kind of job too taxing, but freelance photography (which is not exactly a gravy train job) is not? I smell a bunch of b.s., and a lot of laziness.
I am completely understanding about people with disabilities. I myself have generalized anxiety disorder, social anxiety, PTSD, and fibromyalgia. I myself have had to stop working- not because of my anxiety, though that did trouble me a great deal. I had to stop because of being in constant pain and suffering constant fatigue. And every day I hate it, I would LOVE to get a job again and be able to have some sort of life, feeling useful and productive!
So for someone who seems perfectly able to get out and work, but chooses not to? OH that just burns me up! I believe that you should help yourself and do all you can FIRST, before lying back and letting everyone else take care of you.