Why is it some people feel that because you don't want to continue being around someone who is always neagive you have no compassion or a listening ear for them? Compassin has nothing to do with it.
Being around someone who is negative all the time and no matter what finds a way to put their bad feelings into anything and everything is hard to deal with. For every possible positive resolution sharaed a counter negative declaration is accepted as the truth for it's not working. Positive anything it seems is not an option.
Situations and life can be very difficult and out of our control. Extreme drepression can set in all around us. It's just that at what point do you stop being an enabler for this person to continue.
It is a very difficult choice to make. I for one can only take it for so long and need to step aside for my own emotional health. I still feel compassion for and desire the best for someone in this dark palce but not at the risk of becoming like them.
I've been in the dark and do not want to ever go back. It took a wise woman to get me out. Many would have looked at her as heartless and mean but her words were a slap to my face and woke me up to what I was doing to my life. Once I woke up she took me by the hand and walked with me out of the darkness.
Being, seeing, and associating with those who only see the negative in life are sad to see. We want desperatly to help them and try. But when they are not ready to change nor accept that the change has to start with them; our help no longer is the help they need. I feel we do more harm than good by getting on the merry-go-round with them.
I don't want to be on the merry-go-round. I want change be it better or worse but not the same. If I feel another's "black cloud" is blocking my sunshine then I go another way. I truly believe we choose either consciously or sub-consciously the path we take. We have to choose to fight or stay in our misery. But misery can love company someplace other than me. I am not going to allow myself to be taking along for a ride that they do not want to end.
Not expeciting and challenging others to take resonsibilty for their lives, actions, and state of mind is what is crule and unloving. To be a person of conviction, strength, compassion, and love like the wise woman in my life takes tremendous courage, self-discipline, faith, and devotion to one's self and others. It means haveing some feel you are cruel, unjust, uncaring, self-righteous, non-compassionate, in tolerant, misguided, selfish, crazy, accusing, unfeeling and anything else you can think of. It doesn't matter, all I know is that I am thankful this woman cared enough for me to risk others thinking this of her to truly help me change and find the peace and happiness I wanted and needed.