I Don't See A Thing Wrong With It!

Yes I am proudly Anti social. It isn't that I can not be sociable when it is required. I can strike up a superficial conversation with most people. After all how else am I to weed out the people I have no interest in further contact.

The funny thing is most people would describe me as shy... I find that helarious. I'm not shy, I just do not like most people. I watch., listen, wait. . I'm not afraid of people, I'm annoyed by them.

Life if too short to invest my time and energy in relationships that are pointless. Am I jaded, yes, am I cynical. sure am. Would I change this particular personality Quark. HELL NO. My approach to people has saved me much aggravation, and probably my life a time or two. I have real friendships that have endured for years, they are few but they are soild. I have people I can count on and can count on me. 

I hear so many people chastise those who are antisocial and I just do not understand why it carries such a stigma. I'll take real friends over superficial aquaintances any day!

CheekyGeek CheekyGeek
28 Responses Mar 2, 2010

I'm with ya on this. When I was younger having many friend and going out was the thing. But as I have gotten older and developed into my true personality, I actually like being alone and only dealing with people on a one-on-one basis. I am like you, I would rather have a few "solid" friends versus a whole lot of "nothing". There is a difference between being lonely and being alone. I enjoy my peace, and when I need action, I know where to find it...trust me on that!

I agree with you and being in university can seriously be a hassle when you are selectively introverted. My roommate who is the dumbest person ever, goes out Thursday-Sunday (because my university has no classes on Fridays, very few people have classes on Friday). She claims before she came to university she didn't drink and now every tom, **** and harry are calling her to drink. The people she thinks are her friends are fakes, they hacked her Facebook account and wrote all stupid **** and they did stupid **** to her that she doesn't remember. The point I'm trying to make I'm selective about the people I want around me. I can count on one hand how many friends I have. I don't go out often but so what call me boring and I don't have much interaction but so what call me weird. I love it like that.
I personally think there is no problem with being introverted some people think anti-social/ asocial people are psychopaths, whenever people ask me that I always answer yes I am now you should be afraid of me. So sorry about the long post!!

I feel just like you. :)

Antisocials never know they are antisocial in fact they will develop an egosyntonic viewpoint with regard towards their behavior.

A. Antisocial means : 1. unwilling or unable to associate in a normal or friendly way with other people: He's not antisocial, just shy. 2. antagonistic, hostile, or unfriendly toward others; menacing; threatening: an antisocial act. 3. opposed or detrimental to social order or the principles on which society is constituted: antisocial behavior. 4. Psychiatry . of or pertaining to a pattern of behavior in which social norms and the rights of others are persistently violated.

I am UNWILLING to accociate with most people. AND I can be very hostile toward people who I find ... well like you. B. People who are antisocial ARE INDEED aware if they do or do not Want to or can not deal with people in social settings. So the next time you feel the need to armchair diagnose someone know this. YOU ARE MOST CERTAINLY WRONG and should shut up and just load the next page. DISMISSED!

This is not the mark of an antisocial. You may have some other disorder though.

it is clear you have NO idea what you are talking about. Take your anger and self superiority issues elsewhere.

You are very much like myself!I have been a loner most of my life and have learned the hard way that peole will let you down for the simplest reasons.I have very few friends but at least they are honest and very loyal!CHEERS to you and thank you for the great posting!!!

Thank you too few people can appreciate the beauty of being antisocial !!

LOL... not if your Picky from the beginning. ;)

Superficial aquaintances is where it's at, forget about real and solid friends, those kind of relationships take a toll on you.


Screu... excellent post a perfect example of the First rule. after only one post from you and I know you Have an overblown sense of superiority. This , most likely, the result of low self confidence, secretly you do not want others to know how inadequate you feel so in order to protect yourself you interject yourself, wanted or not into any situation where you can Prove how intelligent and superior you are. <br />
This unfortunately has an opposite result of your intended goal. <br />
Imagine me smiling politely for a moment, then abruptly walking away.. What where you in the middle of saying something. Sorry I lost interest. <br />
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I do not feel the need to Prove to others what I know about myself, you should not either. <br />

I have a question: where is this superior vocabulary which apparently distinguishes your intellect and subsides others? I don't see it. Also, in your post there is not a single innovative comment nor an actual responds to your post.

Thank you. :)

Love your way of looking at it, I feel much the same way most of the time.

Nice blog, Maya, looks like you found a very helpful Place to vent your frustrations...Lets face it People can be so very fustrating.<br />

Agree with you 100%!!<br />
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@ Artistina, YES substance. and for God sake use Big words! Do you find that if you use too many "big" words you get accused of "talking down" to people. <br />
My attitude is this, I will not dumb down my vocabulary, if I do that IS talking down. Too many people take that as me thinking I am better then them. However if they stopped and thought about it for just a second they might realize that I am giving them the benefit of the doubt and talking to them as if they are intelligent. It is a complement not an insult.

it's all about powers of analysis, seeing what is really there. Good and bad. People who like small talk bore me. My own friends and I fight to tell each other things! The average person doesn't interest me as the person sat by themselves watching......

The other thing people may not be taking into consideration is: If you are spending much of your time alone, it just might be that there are no activities near you that you find interesting. alot of people don't understand that. <br />
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I don't go to bars... I don't drink and I can't hear = not fun<br />
I usually don't go to parties...... Drunk people in an interment setting... OK that's only fun till people get sloppy and I don't have the patience to wait for the funny. <br />
Sports..... I have no interest in what so ever.<br />
Concerts... too expensive and a small jam session with a few buddies if FAR more enjoyable.<br />
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My MOST MOST Favorite thing to do is sitting under a tree, and listening to the wind.... that isn't exactly a group activity, though it is sometimes nice to hang out there with maybe one close friend who doesn't NEED to talk.

I think you have hit the nail on the Head Asevan. , It is the inability to interact that is the concern.<br />
You have been hurt, so you completely pulled into yourself. That isn't exactly antisocial. <br />
I make a choice based on observation. What you seem to be doing is making a choice based on fear. , If I am to understand you correctly. <br />
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What the doctors are asking you to do is confront that fear. Now I am not qualified to analyze you However I can speak from my own experience and share with you what I have learned. In the hope that something will ring true for you and help in some small way. <br />
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My Youth was not an easy one. The people closest to me where the most hurtful. The people who should have been there for me ended up being the ones I could trust the least.<br />
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For a time I did pull into myself, But I also observed, I taught myself to recognize the characteristics of untrustworthy people. Their body language, How they ask a question, Subtle phrases , The look in their eyes. How their presence made me feel. <br />
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I learned to follow my gut. If you meet someone and your VERY FIRST reaction is negative REGARDLESS of how charming they are after that first moment, pay extra attention. You first instincts are usually correct. Because I had encountered so many hurtful people so young I found I had a natural nack for it.<br />
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What I also had to realize is: How I was treated when I was young had absolutely NOTHING to do with me or my worth. it had everything to do with the quality of THOSE people. I knew that in my head long before I really felt it in my heart. I had to keep reminding myself of that simple truth when ever I would think back. For me, Once I understood that truth and understood how to observe people I was able to interact and weed out the rif raff. <br />
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Friendships are very necessary (real friendships). Even if you only have one good friend that can make all the difference in the world.

well thank you very much, your not so bad your self Faucon :)


Asevan, Peer preasure is horrible. Would you still feel ashamed if your peers preasured you into something like eating bricks? <br />
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Going out and about once in a while is necessary, However the wait and watch approach has been very good to me.

I agree Faucon, I am getting too old to play the friendship game. LOL

4vrUnique. You don't have to interact with people to know if they are annoying or not. I watch people. you can tell So much more by what a person doesn't say, Body language gives so much away. If they are annoying at a distance, you can bet they will be annoying up close. <br />
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Yeah I've gotten the snobby and uppty thing too... I don't care, I have discovered those are the people who are afraid to be alone. They need the detraction, they don't understand why you don't. I don't really care. They move on to the next person soon enough.

Well, I've been called shy, wallflower, snobbish, uppity....you name it, all because I am picky about who I associate with. I don't have a "new bff" every other day but I know a few who do. Reading your story, I am reminded of the Seinfeld line "people, they're the worst!". It cracked me up cause that's how I feel sometimes. AAh, but if I like you and find you interesting look out....you can't shut me up and I'm anything but a shy wallflower :)

Being antisocial isn't a bad thing. I would have rather have been born charismatic myself, but it is what it is.

that or everyone is a social robot.

LOL I like how you tell it like it is, pragmatism is a great quality. Solid friendships are extraordinary. <br />
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So if you don't interact with someone, then you'd annoyed by them?