Something Is Missing That I Don't Miss

Noreen.....I think if you'd have read a newspaper or watched TV in the last few years you would have learned that celibacy in the church is one of the biggest lies of the last millenium...OUR local priest died of AIDS....last I heard you don't get that from celibacy, OK?
As for your assertion that there have been sex studies done on nuns and priests...well, just ROFLMAO. Yeah, you can make up **** online and fool naive, unsophisticated people and you can find "studies" to support any crazy idea you may want to promulgate but inconvenient FACTS get in the way....why don't you make a little footnote and give us a look at your "studies"?

Uh, celibacy takes YEARS off of your life....you should all consider seeing an Endicrinologist and find out if it's just a hormonal imbalance....c'mon...sex is awesome fun.

I feel the EXACT same way... I think you just confirmed this for me..

i am asexual too good for you people should accept its a part of who you are if they dont thats thir problem not yours

You go girl. Sex is not essential and always comes with a lot of before and after dramas and for a few minutes of supposed sensation I dont think it is worth it.

It is in my opinion very much like the old arguement that says a women isnt complete unless she has kids.

Fortunately society is coming around to letting that become more acceptable so more women can be honest about it.

Good on ya for being honest and open about what I suspect is far more common than will eer be admitted to.

I am Androgyne but Asexual too. I just could do without the whole sexual thing. I'd rather share an evening sitting and talking or watching a good movie than doing the funga-lunga, to me its over with in a short period of time and you both secretly wonder if you fulfilled the others needs. Doubt and more doubt and then discussion about then issues about it, no thanks, I can do without all that. I would rather have a good friend that I can count on than someone who expects me to fulfill the need. Sex can happen anywhere with anyone but a good friend is a treasure and one that will most likely last a lifetime.

well what's the harm in that? we're all created different right? :) in our society the norm of life is so hypersexed it's disgusting and unhealthy.



I know that after my separation which was harrowing, in many respects and during the heavy phase of my depression/anxiety I had no sexual desire, just wasn't there. It's life. I know that supposedly our sexuality is cyclical and it depends on endless factors , so the experts' say. I think that no one is a better expert on you than you. If it's not broken why fix it?



Hugs to you and it takes real courage to come and be honest in front of the world, so I salute you for that!

If you're comfortable with yourself, that's all that matters. If something happens to change it, then it does. I was completely asexual until I met my current boyfriend, who has gradually influenced me to gain somewhat of a sex drive. It's still what I consider very low, but it's a change nonetheless. Though I don't believe in the argument that "you just haven't found the right person yet", there was some truth to it in my case.

brilliantblue -- I think that it's really important to have at least one period in our lives where we are independent and happy living alone. When we can relate well to ourselves, then relating to others is a piece of cake.

wrongboy -- I can be jealous of other things, though.

So does not having sexual desire, mean that you never feel jealous?

So does not having sexual desire, mean that you never feel jealous?

JJ -- You'll never catch me for an intervention. I'm on the run and looking over my shoulder.

JustJessie -- DP and I are joined at the mouth.



Silver01ta -- We all have things that excite us, motivate us, and give our lives meaning. It's just not the same for everyone. Thanks for understanding.

Wow, this is crazy, but I see nothing wrong with you. Some people just dont have that drive in them.



Personally, Im addicted to vagina... its like my crack. I cant put it down!

JJ -- It's like asking if I'll start liking Pepsi? I don't right now, and it's hard to imagine, but I realize that a serious trauma to my tongue could change all that.

NoMoreLove -- That's the way I read it, too.

The comment was not directed at you Alan.

NoMoreLove -- I haven't joined the Sexless Marriage group, because I don't identify with the people there, who seem to not like the fac that their marriage is Sexless.

Nice LilAnnie...a "pity fest" in the sexless marriage group?

redholly -- Thank you. I'm becoming better at being me all the time.



LilAnnie -- I'm sorry to hear that your husband isn't rolling around the muck with you.

And good luck in your non-pursuit. All's fair.

What I have is me, still rolling around in the muck and mire of the stuff of life, and my lofty husband, above it all, feeling sorry for me. Most days, thanks to my age, I can find humor in it. Other days, I resent the hell out of him. And would love to hurl a big messy mud ball at him!

LilAnnie -- It would be ideal if the asexuals were in sexless marriages, and the sexuals were in sex filled marriages.



We can only do the best we can with what we have. Good luck in your pursuit.

I've wandered over here from the sexless marriage experience. Yeah. I'm one of those endless whiners....its a pity fest over there. Much more dignified to be asexual, I think.

LilAnnie -- I'm married, and it works out in that context. I usually don't talk a lot about my marriage on EP.

You don't mention a partner. You sound like a stand up guy. So I probably don't need to urge you to be honest about your sexuality with anyone you date. Otherwise, the potential for heartache is huge.

Journeywithin -- There are limitless things you can do with your time and energy. Sex is only one of many options, and definitely not necessary.

I do not have the need or the desire for sex for a long time now. My marriage was based on sex and nothing else. Now that I am older I feel like I can live without it cause I do not feel like I am missing anything.

strangeone -- I find your perspective interesting and helpful. I'm not offended at all. I enjoy hearing an outside perspective.



As you can imagine, this isn't something I discuss in the real world.