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I'm Proudly Asexual, Too.

I knew it a long time ago. I think the people around me also know it... they know I will never have any conventional relationship... and well, more conventional than having sexual interests can't be found. I am sure I am not interested in sex, even if my friends think I will not know until I try any relationship... because it's true... I have never had any... But then, I can tell them... "so, does it mean you can't be sure about your heterosexuality (or any other orientation) until you try it?"
I label myself as heteroromantic, because I really feel attracted by the male gender; ... However, I don't feel it's a condition to live happy. If someone arrives, I will receive him just if he demonstrates he wants to evolve with me. I believe asexuality, as any other orientation, makes part of evolution, and acceptance is indispensable.
I am 24 now, and I've never felt a sexual drive. I feel pretty abnormal, by the way! But abnormality is a great adjective in a society where everything seems so mechanical.
I'm proudly asexual and I hope this community grows.
anzamu anzamu 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 20, 2013

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Hello, I am so glad that you are so proud. I am working at it. Usually my pride comes from not being one of those "stupid girls that constantly need to be in a relationship". However, I am sad by the thought that having a conventional family (husband and kids) is a very far away posability (not impossible) for me. I grew up in this society too that taught me its values and although I am confident in my degree of uniqueness and love my own quirks, I have also internalized many of these societal norms and I know a family is what I want. I want that companionship but I wont put a guy through that.

"I am sure I am not interested in sex, even if my friends think I will not know until I try any relationship... because it's true... I have never had any... But then, I can tell them... 'so, does it mean you can't be sure about your heterosexuality (or any other orientation) until you try it?'"

I love that you said that. That is how I try to expalin it to people now days. I ask them if they would ever suggest a gay male try sleep with a woman to make sure he is not gay. I find we are a sexual orientation that has simply not been talked about. I feel very lonely as of late... I feel... not misunderstood but rather under-understood (sorry intelligent words ecape me today). I hope to be more like you some day and thank you for sharing on here as it gives me strength.