After my first girlfriend, I said "this is not the life for me, way too hard," and identified as straight for a while.
Years later, I ended up working with only men in a small town and hardly seeing any women in my everyday life.
On a rare night out, my male hook-up buddy asked me if there were any girls I'd want to have a ********* with. At first, I said I didn't notice girls that way, but the more I drank, the more I started checking them out, and after admitting that I found this one girl we saw dancing super-hot, I couldn't take it back.
I couldn't stop thinking about the women I did see on rare occasion, and ended up telling my friend I didn't want to hook up anymore.
Now I just need the courage to talk to them!
learningtofeel learningtofeel
26-30, F
3 Responses Aug 16, 2014

It's like we shackle ourselves before we ever knew we were free. Do what you want. Make love to who you want. Feel what you want in this world... it's obvious by now we don't get to forever. When it's all said and done, you're not going to look back on your life with pretty labels all over it~ so stop looking at other girls with the word 'them' so emphasized... after all, you are one. You already have an advantage, don't you think? ♥

No. I'm really more like a guy in the way I go through the world. Women are truly a mystery to me.

I don't think we need to put labels on ourselves... but if identifying as one or the other helps, then yeah...
Just talk to them :) girls are easier to talk to anyway ( at least some on them ).

I find the opposite to be true. I can pretend to like guys but when a girl is around I turn into an idiot. I don't see how anyone is ever gonna want to be with me!

Yeah... I was just saying in general. But with that I agree, when attraction comes into play, things are a bit harder. I use to have more male friends but that has changed in the past couple of years.

Because you came out?

No, unfortunately I have not. Because... I'm not sure why, I kept waiting for them to grow up and they never did I guess.

I don't think coming out is mandatory. You'll probably find other male friends one day...

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Hope you can find the courage, good luck