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I Almost Cheated On My Boyfriend. I Regret Not Making A Move...

By: sasarah
Written on January 29th, 2013
I have been in a relationship for 2.5 years now and up until a couple months ago everything was going great. Then we started to have problems in the bedroom and we were only intimate maybe twice a week. I dont feel like that has anything to do with my currect dilemma but its most definitely not helping. I have been friends with this certain guy for 10 months now and ever since the very first time we met, we have had an overwhelming connection. Everytime we see eachother, it seems the connection grows more and more to where I am now thinking about him often and about my boyfriend less and less. The other night "Ben" came to my friends birthday party (my bf was at this party as well) and its like we were inseperable. Later on in the night, I went outside to get some air and not even a minute later, "Ben" came outside and sat beside me without saying anything. He looked at me and just smiled. We then started having an amazing conversation. I really wanted to kiss him and it was so obvious he wanted to kiss me. Before I had a chance to make that mistake, my best friend interrupted us (I was kind of happy, kind of disappointed). I have no idea what to do. I feel like its only a matter of time until "Ben" isnt such a gentleman, respecting my relationship boundaries, and just does what hes wanted to do so badly. Or until I become a cheater and kiss him.
HELP!
By: sasarah
Age: 18-21 , Female
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  • ladybug1234
    ladybug1234

    Young lady, you cannot have your cake and eat it too. You are treading on dangerous grounds and risk losing both of them You have to decide soon if you want to stay or break up with your boyfriend and go with Ben instead. Only you can figure out whom you like to be with. But once you make a decision I hope you can remain faithful to it. Good luck! :)

    Mar 27
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  • LonelyGirl1230
    LonelyGirl1230

    Honestly if there was a list of the top most difficult decisions in the world, this would be one of them. I cannot actually tell you what to do, nor can anybody. I will, however leave you with this to think about:

    1) What does your current boyfriend mean to you? Do you love him, or just like him? You said you were having some problems, so can you see them being solved, or will they just keep happening? Are you truly ready to move onto something else?

    2) Have a good conversation to yourself about this "Ben." Are you guys really connecting? Could your problems with your boyfriend be making you feel more connected to Ben simply since there are no tension between you? From experience, when you are having trouble with a relationship, someone you are close to might start seeming like more to you because you crave for stability (which you tend to see in someone you are not in a relationship with, because there aren't any of those problems, yet).

    3) Are you maybe letting the thought of "cheating" or "new" seem exciting to you? Some loyal people might experience the tingling sensation of being naughty and/or wanting a change. Especially when they are having trouble with their relationship.

    4) If you want to try something with Ben, I would suggest telling your boyfriend beforehand that you either need a break from him to try new things, or want out. I wouldn't recommend being a cheater because that really hurts people, and you might feel awful afterwards. Think about how you would feel if someone did that to you.

    5) If Ben knows you're in a relationship, do you feel comfortable with him (if he truly does) having these thoughts and feelings knowing you are in a relationship? Maybe he is the right guy for you, maybe he isn't. If Ben was in a relationship with another girl, how would you feel about making a move with him them?

    I hope any of these helps you make a decision!

    Mar 26
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  • Since92
    Since92

    Love sucks!

    Jan 29
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