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Scary...

I've been told this once before, but I didn't realize how major it is until a few days ago...

I was on the phone, talking to TexasLily, and I was talking about my mom, and she said, "No wonder you're such-and-such a way!"  One thing she brought up is how I like to know the entire truth...I don't let people cut corners.  I pry and dig things out of people if I can tell they're hiding something.

My mom is just like that too...she always manages to dig the truth out of me.  I'm constantly trying to hide things from her, but usually to no avail.

I'm really glad TexasLily pointed that out.  She said I need to work on that, and she's right.  I definitely don't want to become as annoying as my mom, and I don't want to ever treat my kids that way.  It's scary though...

The one thing I can think of to justify my behaving this way as being better than my mom is my reason.  When I "dig" something out of someone, I always comfort them and advise them in a loving way.  That's why I pry...I want to know their struggles so that I can help with them.  My mom, on the other hand, usually just tries to get me to stop whatever she finds out I was doing or whatever.  She's still trying to help, but she does more damage than good.  So that's how I justify it.

It's still scary though...I don't want to become a control freak like  her...

RopinTexan RopinTexan 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 13, 2009

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I used to be just like my mom RT. She was always putting in her two cents worth, and forever judging people. I was just like her, and that scared me too. I was always judging my daughter, but I stopped. Like my counselor used to tell me, you have to get out the bad stuff that you have been brainwashed with. Then you fill it with good, and positive things. It's not impossible, if I did it, YOU most certainly can!!!