I Am Being Bullied By Coworkers And Ex-coworkers

Over 3 years ago I was quitting smoking and I lost control late afternoon at work.   I had smoked for 30 years and had always used smoking to relieve stress.  It was me and I felt awful about it.  I even went to counseling and learned how to relieve stress.  I went back to work and I apologized for being rude and I thought things were going to be ok.  Pretty soon one of the managers started harrassing me, then the girl that was with me when I stressed out became a manager, and I started getting written up for the tiniest of things.  So I got another job and moved on.  Then someone I used to work with hired in and she told coworkers and I still do not know what they are saying about me.  I started getting messed with really bad.  I was in tears everyday, finally things had calmed down and everybody  was getting along great.  While I was worrying about what was going on with my job, ex-coworkers got with my girlfriend and told her I don't know what and she doesn't want anything to do with me and I go to work and they start messing with me again.  I am seriously not liked and I do not know why or what to do and it's really hurting.
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4 Responses Sep 26, 2010

You are so not alone in your situation. I see your post was written over 4 years ago. How are things now?
Ignore the lot of them and just get on with your work. Log every nasty incident down.That is all you can do.
Then if you get fired you write to head office with all the details. They have to investigate by law.

Document this behavior and turn it in to HR

Once you positivity identify the source of the problem a co-worker is making on you, tell the supervisor or manager. If after three days no action, put it in writing that you talked to the boss. There are harassment policies in any work place and you can sue the company for not taking action, like years of wages, back wages for stress and lawyer fees. You may not have a job but the reward is compensation for harassment at the work place and failure of the boss to act.<br />
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Good luck.

Try these books: "Verbal Judo: The Gentle Art of Persuasion" and "Bully in Sight: How to Predict, Resist, Challenge and Combat Workplace Bullying" which have greatly helped me at work. You can also try doing a search at YouTube for keywords like "bully at work" "workplace bully" or similar keywords for great videos. Also go to "BullyFreeAtWork.com" for additional ideas. I went through the same thing - it sucked, then it stopped! Hope this helps you.