Confused Thoughts...advice?

I can't say I'm curious, but it's been a couple months and I've had confusing thoughts. I mean I am straight, I love guys and I have a boyfriend.

The thing is I have found myself looking at other girls. I find features that I like or admire. I have never been with a girl, nor have I ever kissed a girl. I have had thoughts about being with other girls and what it would be like. Sometimes I have thoughts about it and then I bring myself back to my sences and say no that crazy u can't be. If the chance came, I'd take it. Just to see another side of me. I'm still comfused and I can't find the words to say it to myself....



confused001 confused001
18-21, F
4 Responses Sep 3, 2009

I am in the same position you are in right now. I am completely straight and I have a boyfriend. I have never even kissed another girl but lately, I've been having thoughts about being with a woman. I am very curious as to what it is like. I sometimes question myself too and say that I am crazy but I think if you feel that way, you should act on it. Talk to your boyfriend about it and hopefully he will be accepting of it. I talked to my boyfriend and he said he is all for me being with a woman. I have no intentions of leaving him or anything, I just want to know what it is like. I really hope things work out for you. Let me know how it goes and I will let you know about my experience!

Yes talk to someone Not necesarilly your BF Another woman might be better ? Probably one of the women you admire, It usually starts out with a cuddle or and embrass<br />
later in private in his apartment etc If it goes further and U like it You will know how you feel. I never thought I was BI till a man seduced me one night after a party<br />
I have friends that are hetro ,-+gay and lesbian They know me for who and what I am and about my lifestyle as a CD TS

I would have to agree with Fungirl on this that you should talk to your boyfriend about these feelings that you have and let him know what you are feeling.

I have been in your boyfriend's position. I know how it feels to find out the person you love is bi-sexual. It will be easier to talk to him about the feelings before you act on them than after. I hope all works out for you.<br />
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BTW just because you think a girl is pretty doesn't make you gay. I think lots of women are pretty and I am straight.