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I Am Bored With Life and Unfullfilled

Staying On The Beaten Path...

By: DARKMAN18
Written on February 6th, 2012
I'm a 27 year old man who basically had on a paper quite a good life... Good health, family, friends, girl-friend, good finances, stable and promising job and yet for some reason I feel so unfulfilled... The question I often ask myself is what is life about, and to me the answer is never as clear and easy for anyone, and it is probably an answer unique to every individual. What I do know is that looking back at my life so far the best and most memorable experiences I had was the interactions and friendships I made, family is always important, and the experiences I've had in my life in terms of the places I've gone and the things I've seen and done... I've always felt this way but it is almost as if there is no way out of the rat race and staying on the path is the only choice I have... I mean what else can one do?

I recently met another girl who saw life and thinks in a similar way and it really turned my world upside down... I never imagined I could meet another person who enjoyed just being alone together looking into the sky, stars, moon and seeing the beauty in it that we often take for granted... I felt so at peace being with her and it was the first time and probably the only time I meet a person like that. The problem i have is that we are not able to be together because for a number of complicated reasons including the fact that i currently have a girlfriend, and yet she sparked that side of me which has been kept dormant for such a long time... How do I go back? I feel so lost...
By: DARKMAN18
Age: 26-30
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  • LostOnEarth83
    LostOnEarth83

    To be honest, it sounds like you really want out of your current relationship, but are too scared to fully admit it, even to yourself. Scared of change, of making a mistake, of being wrong about this other girl, of starting over, about hurting your g/f? It's normal, but stringing her along and fantasizing about someone else isn't doing either of you any favors. Sounds like you want someone else to tell you it's time to go because you don't trust your own instincts.



    Wasabi Hero might be right; there might really be something there with this other girl. Then again, there might not. It sounds like you don't really know this other girl, and you might be idealizing her because you're unhappy with the relationship you are in. Could be that you are in a rut or not communicating well; could be that it's time to call it quits. But you might be fixating on her because you're unhappy and it's always easier to leave a relationship and start a new one than to be alone. I don't know how long you've been in the relationship or how much you have invested in it, but I would seriously recommend discussing your feelings with your girlfriend before pursuing anything with some mystery girl you don't know. If you've tried this and worked at it and you're still not happy, then maybe call it quits, but don't do it for the wrong reasons.

    Mar 12, 2012
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  • WasabiHero
    WasabiHero

    Talk to her. If she feels the same way, maybe you should explore it. How long has your other relationship been going on? If you really like this new girl that you met, and it sounds like you do, maybe break up...? I know the thought of that is terrible, but it sounds like you and this new girl share something that could be really special.

    Feb 15, 2012
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