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THE Hurt Won't Go Away

 

I WAS IN A LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP THAT HAS ENDED. IT TOOK HIM NO TIME TO REPLACE ME. I WAS GOOD TO HIM. I GET ANGRY A LOT BECAUSE HE JUST USE PEOPLE AND MOVE ON. I USE TO TELL MYSELF WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND. BUT THAT IS NOT TRUE HE WILL NEVER KNOW WHAT IT FEELS LIKE TO BE HURT THE WAY HE HURT ME. HIS LIFE IS PERFECT. HOW IS IT THAT WHEN YOU ARE A GOOD PERSON AND LOVE SOMEONE SO MUCH YOU GET HURT BUT THE OTHER PERSON JUST MOVES ON NEVER LOOKING BACK. I AM RYING SO HARD TO GET OVER HIM GET PASS ALL THOSE YEARS WE WERE TOGETHER BUT NOTHING HELPS. MY HEART ACHES SO MUCH. HIS LIFE WILL ALWAYS BE HAPPY AND WONDERFUL WHILE MY HEART NEVER HEALS............

keeaser keeaser 41-45, F 15 Responses Apr 21, 2009

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I have been divorced now for over two and a half years and I have still not gotten over it

i am a boy and i live same misery. pathetic as it is

Sori dear. ....I'm a guy and I'm suffering. same.smtyms I tink ill prefer a bullet d e

When you give your heart to one person and then your relationship is over it hurts so verry bad but you just have got to watch out for peaple most peaple onley think about them selves

Everyone is right, Karma. It takes a long time for the hurt to go away. Cry, Get mad, be hurt. But never lose yourself. He won't come back, and if he did you wouldn't want him. you are much stronger now. Live, find a life you want, and always smile, even when you don't want to. He's a jerk, and now she has to live with him ! You are free..remember that ! Sides, you are prettier, you win !

sorry this guy treated you the way he did.<br />
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I don't think you should blame yourself at all because you were genuine ..and no one should blame themselves for being that. Its not a fault its a credit to your personality. from what you say it seems like there was an incredible amount of insincerity on this guys behalf. But that again is his problem you are well rid of that type of character. <br />
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You say you don't believe in karma I can assure that it is out there I've seen too many cases not to believe in karma. Like has mentioned it can take years to kick in but it will.<br />
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But this IS NOT your problem. When you next meet someone be cautious by all means. This will help you make the right choices. But don't let this bad experience affect your enjoyment of a new loving relationship. Go into it without bitterness and allow him to love you they way you BOTH deserve.<br />
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Best wishes <br />
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Cherri

Trust me I know how you feel, but I truly believe that no matter what you do especially if it's bad and you hurt others Karma will find you non of us can escape it. I couldn't nor will he. It may not be as soon as you want it but it will happen and when it does he will be hurt and alone and you will be a better, happier person.

I think all of us after a breakup doubt ourselves. Ask ourselves "What did I do? What could I have done differently?" But like Miss J said, it takes two.<br />
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You may, during that introspection, discover some things about yourself. Learn your strengths, and perhaps some weaknesses, that you can bring with you to your next relationship. And if you want it, there will be another. So, although it doesn't feel like it now, perhaps some good will come out of the pain.<br />
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And just a guys insight. If you two were together all those years, he feels the pain too. But realize you are probably the last person he would let see that. His life may seem "perfect", but he has come through this with scars too.

i think most of us think it must have been something that we did because the relationship ended. but what about what he did? he surely can't be blameless. don't beat yourself up with coulda, woulda, shoulda. that won't get you anywhere and won't help you to heal.

AFTER MY REALATIONSHIP ENDED THE FIRT THING I DID WAS TRIED TO FIGURE OUT WHAT I DID WRONG, WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME. I DO NOT GO ANYWHERE IF I DO NOT HAVE TO. THERE IS NOTHING WORST THAN BEING LONELY AND ALONE. BUT I THINK IT IS BETTER THAN HAVING TO DEAL WITH THE DECEPTION OF OTHERS.

I believe it too. What comes around goes around. It may not happen immediately but it will one day. You may never know it but it will happen. You deserve better anyway. Dont think about the loser anymore. Its not easy I know, its hurts and all you want to do is cry and just stare at the ceiling. But slowly it will get better and you wont be able to remember what the idiot looked it (dont keep his photos either lol). Just chuck everything out. You start a new :) We are all here for you should need to talk it out or anything :)

unfortunately you can't turn off your feelings like a faucet, although some people don't seem to have much trouble doing it, like the exes who move on with such ease. i sure don't know what happened to happily ever after. i never got too close to achieving that.

I WANT TO BELEIVE THAT PEOPLE WHO HURT OTHERS EVENTUALLY FEELS THE SAME KINDA HURT. BUT I JUST HAVE MY DOUBT. WHEN YOU LOVE SOMEONE TRULY LOVE THE IT IS HARD TO JUST TURN THAT OFF. THESE DAYS JUST AOUT EVERYTHING AND EVERYBODY IS DISPOSABLE. WHAT HAPPEN TO HAPPILY EVER AFTER???

a breakup is hard enough, but when your ex wastes no time in finding someone else, it stings even more. i know it hurts but DB is right; in time it will get better. give yourself some time.

It seems that way now , but you will feel bettter. Time heals the wounds. I am a believer in carma. So what goes around , comes around. He will get hurt in his life.<br />
No body escapes that. Maybe by a child or a friend.<br />
I wish you peace and serenity in your life. Good Luck