Above Natural and Beyond Ethical

I am 31 and have been celibate for over 10yrs. I have no expectation of renouncing my commitment. Although I have numerous philosophical and practical reasons (not due to lack of opportunity) I must admit that I felt a personal calling from God. When I first was called to this lifestyle I had to give up a  relationship that I DID want to be in (if you had only seen her face or heard her singing). I had also had flat-out, no strings attatched offers from other attractive girls on occasion but had to follow what I believed was right. Everyone assumes that I have psychological or sociological reasons but I can assure you that I desire women as much as anyone and know that there are at least a few decent ones out there. It is hard to describe what your soul goes through and what it sees from this angle that so few are willing to accept. I'm not super holy man or anything, it is just very difficult to explain in this little box on the internet. lol

In response to the comment I recommend Mathew 19:11 Jesus replied, "Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given. 12For some are eunuchs because they were born that way; others were made that way by men; and others have renounced marriage because of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it."

 1 Corinthians 7 verse 1 Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not to marry.  and verse 6,7  I say this as a concession, not as a command.  I wish that all men were as I am. But each man has his own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.

Also, it may be worth noting that I do have two children from when I married at an early age. The need to reproduce is not an issue.

In the words of Kierkegaard:

"God wants celibacy because He wants to be loved... O infinite Majesty, even if You were not love, even if you were aloof in Your infinite majesty, I could not help loving You, for I need something majestic to love, What others have complained of--namely that they did not find love in this world, and therefore felt the need to love You, since You are love (which I agree with totally-- I would like to proclaim too, and apply it to the majestic). There was, ans still is, in my soul a need for majesty, which I shall never grow tired or weary of adoring. In this world I found nothing of this majesty for which I yearned."

chromaticone chromaticone
36-40, M
6 Responses Apr 17, 2009

I love your story but i strongly know that living a celibate life requires a community of people dedicated to it .TRy servants of the word its a celibate group of men who serve God

Thanks for your comment. Wow I haven't been on this site for a long time. Still celibate though.

I commend you on your choice. The path I have chosen is similar to yours and it is a very lonely path. I often feel a bit freakish as if I am the only person who actually wants to be celibate. It's nice to know I'm not alone.

finally someone who may get me and what I'm all about! i feel I have been called by God also. to spread some light on this dark, negative cold planet! We are his warriors, his chosen. it is a hard thing to do in a world so full of hate and confusion. but 1 person at a time if you can change 1 mind, bring a little light to 1 life a day.....that is all it takes! faith, hope and love. without these you have nothing!

Your post made me cry. I feel like a freak cause it's been 15 years of celibacy. Could be a shame based marriage to blame, but anyway. I have not heard God calling me to it specifically, but I am so solitary I sometimes sense He just wants me 'for himself'. As if I was anything. I am on my face before HIS MAJESTY.

That is amazing that you have listened to what God has told you to do and I will pray that He continues to strengthen you in this walk with him. You go Boy!!!

God has asked us to go forth and multiply, so all the spirits can come to earth and gain a body and this earthly experience........haven't found anything in the bible which asks for celebacy by choice ?