Above Natural and Beyond Ethical
I am 31 and have been celibate for over 10yrs. I have no expectation of renouncing my commitment. Although I have numerous philosophical and practical reasons (not due to lack of opportunity) I must admit that I felt a personal calling from God. When I first was called to this lifestyle I had to give up a relationship that I DID want to be in (if you had only seen her face or heard her singing). I had also had flat-out, no strings attatched offers from other attractive girls on occasion but had to follow what I believed was right. Everyone assumes that I have psychological or sociological reasons but I can assure you that I desire women as much as anyone and know that there are at least a few decent ones out there. It is hard to describe what your soul goes through and what it sees from this angle that so few are willing to accept. I'm not super holy man or anything, it is just very difficult to explain in this little box on the internet. lol
In response to the comment I recommend Mathew 19:11 Jesus replied, "Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given. 12For some are eunuchs because they were born that way; others were made that way by men; and others have renounced marriage because of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it."
1 Corinthians 7 verse 1 Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not to marry. and verse 6,7 I say this as a concession, not as a command. I wish that all men were as I am. But each man has his own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.
Also, it may be worth noting that I do have two children from when I married at an early age. The need to reproduce is not an issue.
In the words of Kierkegaard:
"God wants celibacy because He wants to be loved... O infinite Majesty, even if You were not love, even if you were aloof in Your infinite majesty, I could not help loving You, for I need something majestic to love, What others have complained of--namely that they did not find love in this world, and therefore felt the need to love You, since You are love (which I agree with totally-- I would like to proclaim too, and apply it to the majestic). There was, ans still is, in my soul a need for majesty, which I shall never grow tired or weary of adoring. In this world I found nothing of this majesty for which I yearned."