Newly Became Christian, Not Sure What's Next

I am 21 years old, I have never once read the bible up until maybe a month ago and now I have decided that I really enjoyed it and have decided to become a Christian. I am very happy with my decisions and nothing but good things have been seeming to come into my life and making me a better person. I'm just not sure what my next step should be in regards to reading the bible, what to study, what type of church/where to go in my area, and finding friends who share similar beliefs with me who are in my area. My current friends do not believe in god and want nothing to do with me anymore because of my decision to become a Christian. 
kaylaharder kaylaharder
18-21, F
12 Responses Aug 3, 2010

Welcome to the family sister in Christ!

I want to welcome you as a family member in Christ. Being a Christian, while rewarding, won't be an easy road. I have been a Born Again believer for six to seven years now. I would suggest reading the Gospels, Matthew, Mark, Luke, John. I also read devotionals so I can get a little time to study the Bible. I prefer an Assembly of God church, but that's my personal preference. As long as you follow the Bible's teaching you'll be fine.
God Bless.

Unfortunately, there are many churches that won't be for you.. I've gone to several churches that I didn't like, whether it be because of the people, the attitude, or the style they go about things. It can be frustrating, but if you attend a church and aren't getting anything out of it, it simply means that God has called you to a different church! It might sound crazy, but God knows exactly where you need to be, and as long as you keep pursuing Him, you will find the right church for you! :) I know how tough it is to lose friends because of your faith, because I lost a boyfriend, 3 of my closest friends, and even some family, because they only liked me for who I used to be.. It sucks, but it is SO worth it, I promise! When I continued to pursue the Lord, even after losing almost everyone I held close, He blessed me with so many new people; people who supported me, prayed with me, and simply loved the Lord with me. I have made some life long friends, because of it. Now, Christianity is not an easy thing, and anyone that tells you differently has no idea what they're talking about. It's hard, and it won't make your life easy. But let me tell you what... It is worth it. Don't worry about taking any steps and don't worry about what you should do next.. That's what prayer is for! :) Our God is so good and faithful, and the best thing for you to do, is to simply ask Him to show you where to go and what to do next. Muster up as much faith as you possibly can, because that is something that God loves to bless. Ultimately, just continue pursuing Him, and He will make your paths straight! He is so proud of you and loves you more than you will ever know. I can just see Him smiling down on you, with such an unconditional love in his eyes. Keep on keeping on, and I will be praying for you, that you may have a clearer vision of what He wants you to do next! Love you, sister, and I am always here if you ever need to talk, have any prayer requests, or just simply have any questions! :)

Just keep in mind the church and the bible have become two different things. I was Christin and still hold true to Christian values and most of the beliefs, however the churches teaching sometimes leave a lot to be desired. Just keep in mind that God is with you where ever you are and you don't have to go to any specific place to pray or read the bible. <br />
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As for your friends... My fiance is Pagan, yet he still (up until very recently) drove me to church and sat next to me during the sermon. He wouldn't go up for communion but he did bow his head at prayer and was extremely respectful to my god parents and the rest of the congregation. If he a practicing pagan can do that then your friends should be able to get their heads around it. Just don't try and force convert them and they should respect you enough to not put down your beliefs.<br />
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It sounds like you've found the path you're meant to walk. It didn't work out for me but I do sincerely wish you luck on it and am glad things are working out for you now. Find better friends who will love you for you and not a label you wear.<br />
~Xia

i dont see whats your *friends* problems are but im an atheist and i have no problem being friends with christians or anything it dosent bother me at all and it shouldent bother them either and thats their faut your a great person and you deserve better then them

Wow I wasn't expecting so many comments lol. Thanks everyone for writing, that's awesome.<br />
And to Brieks07 ,<br />
I am more of a quiet person when it comes to new things, I'm trying to open up more eventually i'll get to the point of being more outspoken. As for a church i would love to go and see what it's like but I'm the type of person who doesn't like to go to new things alone but i'm thinking this is one that I might have to venture and do alone. i know there are many church's in my area but I'm just not sure which one to pick. Which would be awesome to meet someone in my area that would want to go. I also have to be careful what area of the city i decide to go to.

Very good!!!!<br />
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The next step is to become a true “Bible Student” so that you are not misled: (Acts 20:30) 30 and from among YOU yourselves men will rise and speak twisted things to draw away the disciples after themselves.<br />
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Never leave what the Holy Scriptures say.<br />
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Notice what Jesus himself said: <br />
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(Matthew 7:15-23) 15 “Be on the watch for the false prophets that come to YOU in sheep’s covering, but inside they are ravenous wolves. 16 By their fruits YOU will recognize them. Never do people gather grapes from thorns or figs from thistles, do they? 17 Likewise every good tree produces fine fruit, but every rotten tree produces worthless fruit; 18 a good tree cannot bear worthless fruit, neither can a rotten tree produce fine fruit. 19 Every tree not producing fine fruit gets cut down and thrown into the fire. 20 Really, then, by their fruits YOU will recognize those [men]. 21 “Not everyone saying to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter into the kingdom of the heavens, but the one doing the will of my Father who is in the heavens will. 22 Many will say to me in that day, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name, and expel demons in your name, and perform many powerful works in your name?’ 23 And yet then I will confess to them: I never knew YOU! Get away from me, YOU workers of lawlessness.<br />
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Any questions let me know…They will only be answered with the scriptures.<br />
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Wayne

Remember his commands to keep all of them despite what the world may say ...for those who keeps his commands loves him and thus knows the character of our Lord God Almighty he tolds us even while he was on earth please.....the reward is unfathomable

Congratulations what a awesome choice now you need to find a bile based church go and meet pastors they can help you decide be blessed in your jrouney of faith God is everything

Thats wonderful you have become a Christian! Thats sad that your friends don't want to talk to you anymore. I'm a Christian and I have no problem being friends with people of other religions or atheists. <br />
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I agree with Christyna, start with the 4 gospels and find a good bible teaching church.

I'm glad good things have been coming to you since your choice to become a Christian. =) However, it is not always an easy path...but the rewards are worth the cost. The first one you're encountering, it seems, is the rejection by your friends because you're a Christian now. I'm sorry you have to go through that, but that shows they weren't as true friends as they should have been. I would suggest reading in Paul's epistles, because Paul was the Apostle to the Church; God revealed the mysteries of this church age to him, and then it became Paul's job to teach the Christians. <br />
First, to find a church in your area, just grab a phone book and see what's available. What kind of person are you? Are you more casual or feel like you want to act more formal with your faith? Do you prefer to be outspoken or quiet? Or how do you feel about each when it comes to a church? <br />
Of course, the number one important thing is that a church teaches the truth, but it's also important that you are comfortable at the church you're going to. I have experienced church services in quite a few different denominations, and I think I could help you get an idea of what at least a few of them are like, in general. What do you picture when you think of a church? Is your idea of church also the same idea that you like? Or do you think there are churches that definitely WON'T be what you're looking for?<br />
Just some questions to try to help you figure it out. =)

I hear this many times from those who newly choose to follow Yeshua, (Jesus), which is what makes one a "Christian". Not going to church or being baptized, (although going to church and being baptized are great and add to your new experience). Making a conscious decision that YOU will no longer be "boss" over your life but Jesus and your relationship to Him as Lord and Savior will govern all your days from now on is a big step and it will COST you. Sometimes it may cost you everything! <br />
That is why giving your life to Yeshua isn't something to be done "flip" or without careful thought.<br />
But consider this. Jesus is God's Son. He is at the right hand of God the Father now and when we give our life to Him we become His own. Think of that! We can "belong" to the One Who hung the stars in space, created the sun in its power to light the planets and formed the first man from only dust. More than that we can be in RELATIONSHIP with Him!<br />
Talk about exciting. I've belonged to Yeshua 21 years now. I can't imagine ever being without Him.<br />
I feel His love in my heart. My friends notice it, especially friends who don't believe. It's important that we keep our friends who are in darkness because we may be their only hope to meet Jesus!<br />
We must not be fanatical, but LOVING and KIND. We must not be "religious", (religion causes wars and kills people) but patient. <br />
Who gives us this patience and love for the lost? JESUS Himself of course. You are not alone. Jesus does not accept you as His child and abandon you. Talk to Him just as you would a friend, because He is "the Friend who sticks closer than a brother". He will give you strength and wisdom. I can guarantee you made the right decision but life after that decision can be hard. But nothing really worthwhile comes without cost. Just as Jesus had to die on the cross to pay for OUR sins with His own blood, WE have to sacrifice our wants and desires to His lordship.<br />
But it is SO WORTH IT! You will see. Hang in there-you got plenty company.