Married to a Non-believer?
Hello there, I just need to vent about my situation...maybe someone can relate to it. I have been married for five months to a man who is a non-believer. He attends church with me and prays, but has not accepted salvation. He has a quick temper, has punches holes in the walls when angry, puts me down in front of my parents, and is verbally abusive...this pattern did not appear until after we were married. We have been going to a Christian marriage therapist, but my husband does not complete the homework she assigns, or exercises the tools she gives us. He is making no effort to save our marriage. I feel as if I am trying to save our marriage single-handedly...which is impossible.
I do my best to tell the truth in love during arguments, and to approach our situation from a Christian perspective (do not repay anger for anger, etc.) but when does it get to a point where enough is enough? I understand part of this problem is that I married an man who is not saved. I got myself into this mess to begin with. He is unable to see the situation thru "God's eyes" during conflict and is unable to be gentle and kind. We as Christians have an inner peace...a peace that transcends all understanding, and that is what keeps me going and gives me hope for our marriage. But when does the abuse become too much? It's no fun living in a marriage like this, and I really do not enjoy my husband putting me down rather than lifting me up. Has anyone been in a similar situation? I could use your input, thanks!