Out Of Luck.

please don't force yourself to be with a woman, you maybe happy for a little while but will regret it soon afterwards, i know first hand. i came out when i was around your age and most people accepted me for who i was, my parents said i wasn't and left it at that. i went back in my closet when i started to date my now wife i was 24 and have been unhappily married ever since (21 years). i recently came back out this past month with a much happier responce from family and friends including my wife. be who you are not who others think you should be, knowone knows you better then yourself.

Some things like this just take some time for some people to process. I think it's a bit like grieving - for parents, especially - to be able to accept that their child isn't what they had expected or thought they'd turned out to be.



So far, I've come out to a few select friends and and family and they were fine with it. My kids have been very supportive, too. The person that I can't yet come out to is my dad even though I think he probably already knows deep down, but hasn't heard it from me yet.



I hope that in the last month you've had some things get better.

Being gay is one of the most basic things about you.

It is up to you who tell and when you decide to tell them. It is also up to you who you share your body, thoughts, feelings and emotions with.

Please do not fall into experiencing guilt, fear or shame.

Be bold, be proud and be yourself.

Good luck with being gay. xx

i so understand you and your not alone i came out to my parents and they just rejected me. for awhile i thought i shouldn't be lesbian but then my friends helped me through it and they supported me and i also told my teachers and there understanding with what im going through. but if you can just get through it the more will power to you but most importantly dont be ashamed of who you are not everyones perfect

Unfortunately a lot of people will just never understand, and you don't know what your experience will be until you come out. My girlfriend and I for example have had two very different experiences. I was the lucky one. As soon as i came out each of my three sisters came to me and told me although they are not gay they have each experimented with women and are somewhat attracted to them. my mom was very supportive and started looking up info to teach her church about the LGBT population. and dad just said "I don't care as long as shes not an *******" .... from him ... thats support. I lost one friend because of her religeon and every once in a while a friend tries to convince me i need a man, but over all, things are good

She got a very different experience. She is completely rejected by her mother. She tells her than any bad experience she has from being gay is her own fault. and her dad says its fine as long as he doesn't have to see or hear about it. and she has had a lot worse comments than i have. a lot worse.

You have to find the good. Stick by your friends and remember, you won't be living with your family forever, and you can't make everyone happy. You have to focus on finding someone that you can be happy with. Someone that you will want to see in the morning. I am glad that you are out and able to be who you are now. That is the most important thing. it took me until i was 22 years old to be able to do that. i was afraid. i envy you.

They say that friends will come and go but family is always there, but that isn't true. Even if you only have two friends, it's better than having twenty that don't accept you because of something that should be so trivial. Don't give up. The road ahead is long and it is hard; one that nobody should have to travel. But you have two friends who accept you and are there for you, and that's all you need. In my experience, my parents eventually accepted my being gay. They still don't understand that they aren't going to change it, that it isn't a choice, and that it isn't up to them whom I tell. But maybe yours will come around eventually. Just don't give up. Stay positive, try to remain free of other people's negative opinions, and don't tell any big scary homophobic football players.

I agree with empty14. I don't know what to tell you about your dad (hopefully he comes around eventually and accepts you for who you are), but I think you should view your "friends'" responses as a very definitive test as to who is a real friend and who isn't. What's the point of having a ton of "friends" if they don't view you as a friend? I think you should keeping pushing through and I'm SURE you will find new, supportive friends to add to the two remaining ones!

i know how you feel! I tried to come out to my family that im bi-sexual but they just tell me im not and it seems they dont want me to be happy! Just be happy with who you are, and then hopefully everyone around you will begin to accept you too! but hey its better to have 2 really true friends that 20 friends that will stab you in the back.