It's Time

Hey everyone, I'm looking for a little advice on how to (finally) come out. I'm 20, a junior in college, and I think it's time for me to let everyone in on my little secret. My situation isn't ideal, but I know there are people trapped in worse places than me. I have 3 roommates (all guys), only one of which is really small-minded when it comes to this sort of thing. I also work, and I'm worried that coming out at work might change what I've got going for me. There are some really good people at work, though, so I know I can count on some support there. There's one girl who I'm really close with, and I'm thinking she might be the one I should confide in first...I think she could help me through the rest of the process. But what's really getting to me is the huge crush I have on this guy that's in a couple of my classes. I think he might be the straw that breaks the camel's back because having a shot with him would be worth coming out for. He is really something...hmm. You see, for the last few years I kept telling myself I was straight and tried to pull it off. Had a girlfriend, hooked up with girls, etc. As I'm sure some of you know, that doesn't work out too well in most cases, for obvious reasons. so I've got to make up for lost time. One thing that complicates the situation is my ex girlfriend, who I'm still pretty close with and even work with. She has some new guy now, which I hope will take some of the awkwardness out, but I'm worried she'll be mad and know that I led her on all that time. Anyway, I'm done trying to "fit in," I've completely accepted the fact that I'm gay, but I've lived in the closet for so long that I have a really hard time saying it out loud. It feels weird and I don't know how to tell people. Any suggestions? I'm sure I'm not the only one in this situation. Thanks :)
robfrom robfrom
18-21, M
2 Responses Sep 19, 2012

So to update...I came out and everything's gone great so far. I told my best friend from work first and then, slowly, everyone else, and I've seen nothing but support from almost everyone. And I'm now dating that dude I wrote about :) So if anyone's in my old situation, there's hope, and it gets better!

Be yourself. I havent told anyone- but thats only because im 13 and i know most people would say stupid things like you're to young, but if you know and you're proud about it, no one can hurt you.