I Don't Understand

For the first 17 years of my life, I knew I liked guys but now it's changed.
It seems now that I'm attracted to neither/either sex.
I'm not attracted to men, women, or, objects.
I don't get how I can go from being attracted to guys to being attracted to nothing at the crack of a whip.
There must be something wrong with me.
Mybodyisacage Mybodyisacage
18-21, F
6 Responses Jan 3, 2013

It's called asexual?

Dang, I feel the same way! I'm aFreshman in high school. A whole different school. And at this school, like 12% of the girls there are either a lesbian or bi. For me, I had feelings for boys. And trust me, the boys at my school are CUTE!! But over time, my mental and physical feelings for girls progressed. First it hit my dreams. I started dreaming about this insanely beautiful black and Latino mixed 17 year old girl named Lisa. Like I said she's beautiful, but also energetic, adventurous , smart, trustful, nice, and really knows how to kiss to make a person feels better. We would have passionate sex over each others houses. Whenever our parents weren't home, that is. But besides that, it's like she gets me. She doesn't judge me, at all! When I talk,she listens and cares. And whenever I would be down, stressed, depressed, or just really need her, she would hold me. Often whisper how much she loves me, kiss me, or get our groove down. And get this... Lisa was born with both a man and woman sex organs. So I would have fun both ways! Now for my physical feelings. I have, and still do, a crush on this girl at my school. And she's bi. She would talk about her relationships with the boys, and recently, girls ( none of them sound good, btw). At some point, I really wanted to tell, but couldn't because she might spread it throughout the school. So i would choked up. But from the stuff I would hear from her, I want to treat her better than both the girl and boy relationships. But I'm just nervous. And not to mention scared. But she's so beautiful. So can ANYBODY help me out on this? 'Cause its like I'm confused upon being confused.

I'm typically not good with this kind of thing, but it seems to me like her telling you about her relationships not working out is kind of hinting that she thinks you may be the one to give her a good relationship. I say go for it, it's better for you to know how she feels then to always wonder what if. Of course the choice is yours and I hope it goes well with whatever you decide to do.

I'm 18 and I know exactly what you mean. I'm not attracted to anyone or anything. I can look at celebrities and feel like, "wow he's kinda hot" but for the guys around me it's basically a flat line. I think maybe I just got over the whole teenage crazy hormone thing so I'm just neither here nor there.

Yeah that's how I am now.
That's what I was assuming that I got over my teenage hormones, so I know how you feel on being here or there.

It is not uncommon for people to have periods of low sexual interest. Normally it returns soon enough and often with a bang!
There may be all sorts of reasons sometimes it is just mood or other stimuli. Sometmes it is medical. If you think it might be medical, think about going to see a doctor if it continues for more than a few weeks.

I don't think it's medical. I'm not taking anything, but honestly I'm not sure.

I am 21 and have the same problem as you. We need to talk about our problem. I am attracted to men and spend time with a man for several months and then I am not interested in men or sex for a couple of months. Is it my hormones or what. Now I am needing a man and hoping to find one soon.

I know I need to talk about mine; I make zero sense. I think it's a mind thing with me, but I don't know who I am anymore.
You like what you like but maybe subconsciously you deny it?

No sex drive or anything anymore?

No not really. I don't know if it's a mind thing though.

Hmm… did any one particular incident start this or did it just happen?

It just sort of happened yesterday. I don't understand what happened.

Oh wow, that recent? I slowly lost the little sex drive I had. I am attracted to women but I could honestly go for a year without doing anything.

Yeah, that's why I don't get how I could lose it so suddenly.

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