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I Am Confused

I Hate My Life.

By: klynn
Written on January 7th, 2008

I am confused because I am 28, I live with my parents, because I built up massive credit card debt. I have a boyfriend. He is 33. He is an amazing man, but has suffered from bipolar disorder most of his adult life. He doesn't work. My parents hate him, and he has been staying at our house often, and today they told him that he no longer could. We live in a very wealthy area (which makes our finanical situation harder) and anyone from my past would have expected me to have a big rock on my finger by now and lead this perfect suburban lifestyle. However, I was never attracted to corporate men.

I am not white trash. I have a college degree, and a decent job. I am a headhunter for a living, and find high level accounting and finance professionals positions. Since I just started at a new company, and I currently work off of a draw, I don't have enough money to get out of debt and move out.

Since my boyfriend makes no money, he can't help with this either. He is a local musican. I'm confused, wondering if I should just sell out, and meet some rich guy and get married. But I really don't want to loose my laid back lifestyle. I'm fun, I have alot of male friends. I am attractive and intelligent. I'm not a bad person, I just made some bad decisions. I'm really close to declaring bankrupcy and wiping the slate clean, but I don't want to give up yet.

With this new problem that me and my boyfriend have it has put a strain on the relationship with my family, and with him. I feel that if I break up with him, I will be alone. Plus, I enjoy dating him. I just don't know what to do. I don't know what this site is all about. I just needed to vent. I'm sure no one will read this.

I'm sure there are people with much bigger problems and would kill to be in my shoes...but its hard to think that way when the silliest thing, like moving out of your parents house with your adult boyfriend is a huge uphill battle.

I'm depressed over all of this. It's been going on for years. And I'm just about to give up. I bet no one has had this experience.

By: klynn
Age: 26-30 , Female
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  • jwolfe1985
    jwolfe1985

    You do not mention the total amount of debt you owe. If it appears you will inevitably continue paying those credit card bills for four years, declare bankruptcy. I declared the full sweep type bankruptcy in February 2011. My average balance on each of my eight cards was $7,800. I had a disgusting total of $62,400 in unreachable debt for a 26-year-old man working at a clothing store in the mall, earning $12.75 an hour. As for your boyfriend, if you love him and you can laugh and have fun together, to heck with everyone else. Your life is your own. Be happy and good luck, girl.



    -Kaiden

    Aug 23, 2012
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  • Yasmeen119
    Yasmeen119

    I can relate but from my experience if things have not changed in years then most likely this is who this man is and you can stay and live with it if you really love him. If not then get to steppin and do not waste another year

    Jul 27, 2008
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  • tkmmama
    tkmmama

    I have not had that exact experience, but I have had major debts, no money to pay those debts, living in my mom's house, and dating someone that my parents did not approve of. It is very hard to do, but stay as positive as possible because it really helps. You will find your way out of this, and when you do...you will be a better person for it.

    Jul 25, 2008
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