I had been seeing someone for about 3 months but we've entirely stopped communicating. I'm really uncomfortable b/c we have mutual friends so I do see her around. We say hi, act like everything is normal, but we never even discussed anything. I just became uncomfortable around her. I had shared so much about my life with her, been really open with her, but she kept her life pretty much a secret.
Anytime I asked her anything about her life she would be vague and change the subject. She would ask me really personal questions about my life and I would answer them almost always. Once I realized the inequity in this I stopped sharing anything emotional at all with her. Consequently, we have totally stopped communicating.
We were never officially a couple. We had talked about it and decided to not label the relationship just yet. We were okay with having sex and being friends but things had started to get more serious. She pulled out the 'L' word which was nice to hear but inappropriate in that she didn't show it in any way. It's hard to hear "I love you" from someone that acts so distant and doesn't share her life.
I'm confused...it's hard for me not having been in relationships for many years. I want to discuss some things with her. It's not that I want the relationship back but I need a sense of closure. I'm trying to be a person that deals with things head on. In the past I've resolved situations by leaving them and using denial. I don't want to do that anymore cause I know it's not healthy to keep things inside. It's hard though cause I'm not willing to be the one to bring it up. I can't put any more emotional investment in her and acknowledging that I'm hurt would expose me even more. So I guess I'm just gonna vent about it here.....gotta let it out somewhere.