I Am Considering An AffaiSomeone asked me...and have not cheated yet,...thinking about it...don't see why you feel so bad for getting what you deserve and need,we all need loving and if your not getting any at home...why not discreetly get some on the side to keep your sanity ?
Because you took a vow...you promised...if you've changed your feelings and your mind...end that THEN move on. It starts out discreet...but won't stay that way unless your looking for a bunch of one night stands. Don't forget the concern @ STDs...you, like me, probably haven't thought along those lines in years...and I was STUPID so now even though my affair is over..I'm SCARED!!!!
Have you DEEPLY discussed it with you wife? I mentioned things all the time...even in front of people but he thought I was joking. I did break down once...told him everything but nothing changed.
I didn't plan on cheating but I caught up with an OLD friend and one thing led to another....I can tell you I NEVER expected all the emotions and pain for ME and now my husband. IT was the biggest mistake of my life...the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with...and my life hasn't been "storybook".
If you want to stay married...get counseling...do what you have to BEFORE you do something you cant reverse. It only makes the work you have to do to fix your marriage 100x harder...if you can fix it at all after you cheat. So much for keeping the sanity....right?
A430 41-45, F 7 Responses 5 Jul 1, 2011