I Fantasize....

Hmmm seems like your totally wrong blissfulmiss, I've had affairs and you can find both. One day bmiss your fantasies will become reality,then and only then you will see for yourself.

Yall should go to counseling. If it's past the point of blase stagnation and he's just ****** to you either he needs to change his ways or pis off. A lady deserves better, no matter who she is pretty much, for sure.

I have the same thoughts, but I come to the conclusion that my needs would not be met in an affair either. What are you missing? I think if you, (or me), just find sex, we'll be disappointed. The sex with out the intimacy isn't worth what you risking.

Its time honey every wife needs to feel desirable and what better than a lover
Roxanna

You're a good woman for not doing so yet but it's ahrd as hell to not let loose

try it out and you will like it just make it safe like travel to another city or better yet another country. Complete industry exist in UAE where women can hookup with fine european men and spend a few days of their freedom.

I understand how you feel, no joke. Its terrible to feel that way and want only to feel love again not just lust. Love in my marriage dissolved long ago. If you do have an affair keep it secret or leave your husband before it gets to late.

Well i think you only live once but if you decide to have an affair you have to be able to keep it a secret

First of all ,i think you sould have a very important talk with your husband.Tell him that you are unhappy by the way he treats you and that you think he doesnt love you.Tell him your thoughts.
18 years is alot of time to go whasted with an affair.It will only make things whorse.Try to make your hubby understand your feelings.i truly belive that the best way to change a marriage is if both of you try to understad eachothers needs and wants.Don't forget an EX
is an EX for a reason.Now if that doesn't work ,then you can get a divorce first,and then
date other people.It will be fair to you and your husband.

You may be my alter-ego. I'll add you and mail you... if you ignore me it's OK

Pls dont do anything silly .becoz 1st think about the reputation of ur in d society. I gone through dis but some 1 catch me red handed. Now i m d enemy of many people dear. So dont waste ur life in dis stuffs

dont do it....the level of hurt that would take place is insurmountable...once you have made the decision to have the affair with the man from your past...life as you know it is over...their is no such thing as FWB...one or the other will become emotionally involved...share your fantasies with your husband...tell him what turns you on... continue to fantasize about your former lover...but IF you do this...life will only get worse...

You sound so normal...lol
The magic dies if you don't appreciate it and cherish it everyday I suppose.
I think as people walk together through life they have a natural tendency to step apart..getting further and further apart as the walk continues..it takes one of the partners (or hopefully both) to make that effort to turn back towards the middle (is any of this making a kick of sense?! lol)
Anyway you sound like a normal sexually healthy woman to me...I hope you find that perfect romance..it would help you feel like you're alive again...thanks for your candor..

I know how you feel. Not only to yearn for a past lover, but to be taken for granted. So what happened??

What ever happened? Did you start taking ice cold showers?

Dear blissfulmiss how do you know he doesn't love you? You mean he doesn't care about you at all? You are like a sreanger in the house/Did he abuse you and turn violent/ You love your children isn't it?

I would suggest tat u dnt go wit it if ur husband can't satisfy u talk to him tell him wat feels good n wat does not I tell its worth investing time in ur marriage den to have fun n regret later

hw about sharing with me i can do a good licking

Friend me and letc talk about what you are feeling.

What? Can he not do his thing to the fullest? You need a guy to massage your feet. Slowly kiss his way up your legs, breathe hot air on your wet little ****. Then **** the **** out of you while using a vibrator to make you have multiple *******. As it just starts to feel even better every time. And trust me, you wouldn't be able to get enough of an eight inch ****...

I fantasize about it, too. And the sexual part is secondary to the emotional contact that I dream of having with someone.

I definitely could not go through with it. I've made it this far, I have to stick it out another three years. Otherwise, the commitment I made to myself in 1994 would go to waste, and my kids are the most important things.

If he doesn't value you then why don't u deserve a fun and exhilerating boyfriend? A woman enjoying some singe-gal time and just being HER after dealing w such crap at home can be beautiful.

I will tell you that an affair will only destroy the relationship you have now with your husband. You should really consider everything before the deed is done because you can't take it back.

Now if you just want what you had with your ex then talk to your husband. You can ask for things on a food way and even make it sound like your thinking of him in the process. Tell him "You know what I would like to try......." Them insert what you want done to you. If your husband still wants to be with you then he should respond in kind. I constantly think about sex and I have thoughts about other women but I have to push those thoughts onto my wife. I have been approached by other women who have wanted to have an affair, that is always the easy road to take. Don't give up tell your husband what you want and see where that takes you first.

"Just thinking about the things he did" Did you ever talk to your husband in a sensitive way about what you might like him to do - any of those things?

But would it help, or just make you more miserable. That is the question. I wish you the best.

I have often wondered if it was possible to be married and have a lover. It sounds wonderful, but only a rear thing I think.

we all deserve happiness Bliss, If talking to your husband about your feelings and needs would not help you have few choices left. Be faithfull and unhappy or make a change in your life and go for happiness. Best wishes DP

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I am in the same boat, but I am a man, my wife doesn't pay attention to me... I'm not sure where I am headed..

I share the same experience, but from a male's perspective. I know that when I was young I was foolish. I hadn't the slightest idea about what I wanted out of life, and neither did she. We both went in completely different directions, but share a set of beautiful twins. My children are why I stay in the marriage. I would love to leave, but I can't imagine putting my children through divorce, primarily because I know my wife cannot handle things maturely and I fear she would use the kids as pawns. I too dream of the day I meet someone whom I can truly connect with, intellectually, emotionally, and physically. If the perfect opportunity presented itself, I wouldn't hesitate.