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Why Im Considering An Affair!

I love my husband I really do but he doesn't really pays attention to me ,he gets home takes a shower and to the sofa ,I cloud be naked he doesn't even look at me...I guess he doesn't see me as woman anymore but just the mother of his kids!
Bella0906 Bella0906 26-30, F 93 Responses May 29, 2012

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There is no easy answer to any of this.

Dont hold back.. I lived in a sexless marriage for years.. Like you it was stay put and accept it. Try and find an outlet for the frustration... There is no need to to feel guilty 100% with your own conscience... I didnt want to stray so i left.
I knew i would stray ifi stayed. It is your choice...
Non of which is easy

Tell him how you feel, straight out tell him you will outsource your needs if he doesn't want to meet them. There is nothing peaceful about cheating. It will be exciting and amazing... then it will all go bad. Read the stories... it always does... and then they all get divorced anyways. So either leave before you deceive, or just straight out tell him you are going to do it.

he made his family abuse and use me, made me pay bills for him and his family, including food, i did all the manual labour and house work for him and family,he abandoned me when i was pregnant, never came for any antenantal classes or checkup, wasnt even there wen my baby was born, did not even buy 1 thing for the baby, did not help with feedin, bathing, night watch for the baby, still went clubbing n my baby is a yr and a half and i found out he has been cheating for years now, iv lost all the love i used to have , i hate him so much for makin me and my baby suffer, he has apologized but i cant 4get n i get soooooo angry , i had post partum depression, im so unhappy n sad n i cnt seem to get out there n look 4 some1 else, i hate him so much . what should i do.

This post is almost 1year ago. Still feel the same way ?

what would happen if you just jump his bones ?

my Wife only sees herself as the mother of our kid and shows me no affection. i'd love to help you feel desired.

You need to have the physical contact, I know how you feel. I am a man and she sits in the chair after work.

Maybe you could flirt with other guys around him, make him a little jealous. Maybe you can flat out tell him if his does not want to satisfy you, then you can go elsewhere. Doing this in a sexy outfit as you are grabbing his **** might save your marriage. Having an affair might end your marriage, now or later. Your kids will forever have mistrust in love and marriage. If you break your vows, you may never repair the damage. I know this from personal experience.

Maybe get in the shower with him or give him a blow job in the couch to get his attention. It is a ridiculous situation in our society that women (and men) are sexually ignored by their partners, but it is entirely unacceptable for them to get their satisfaction elsewhere. My wife and I are both highly sexual people and we make love or **** (big difference between the two) at least half a dozen times a week and often much more. We also encourage each other to find and **** other partners as well and even welcome them into our own bed with both of us. Neither of us ever has to worry about cheating because we are open about our sexual escapades, bragging to each other when they are good and lamenting the duds, the good ones increasing the intensity of our sex life and the variety creating great excitement for both of us. It is ironic that we as a couple who both love each other very deeply and enjoy sex with each other so much have managed to overcome the conditioning of a conservative society and enjoy complete sexual freedom without the sky falling in or the wrath of a vengeful god, when so many people suffer the neglect of incompatible and inattentive partners, mostly silently, to live a life that is unfulfilled and in which resentment takes root and thrives imperilling everything that they try to hang on to by not fulfilling their sexual desires.

I can relate Bella. My wife occupies all of her free time on pinterest & I'm left alone. It gets old, ya know!

Sit down with him and talk seriously about it. The answer is not to have an extra-marital affair, it will only make matters worse not only for you but for all of the members of your family....Plus, the guilt that results from doing something rotten like that....Trust me, I have done it and I would give anything to turn back time and wipe that awful part of my life away...

If you are totally convinced you should post on craigslist.com instead.

u got to wear daily different cloths show him love and care for him ,hanve nice perfume make music show him ur lovely figure

i would give you all the attention and never leave you a loney iam very caring and loving and i keep it real at all times

never make anything more complex than it should be. it might be good to get together people with like needs,but try it as a group first. extra problems will come out everywhere.

I understand where you're coming from. My W only sees herself as a mother and forgot she has a husband. I'm basically a paycheck and pair of hands to help around the house. seems like my W and your H would be a good match!

being a man he doesn't understand your needs unless you share it with him. he might be sensitive if you bring it up harshly. do not tell him he has something to learn.

I volunteer to be the lover you need. Friend me and lets chat.

It's enticingly exciting. In which case you will probably not be able to resist, and will most likely ignore this warning at your peril.

After the fun and excitement, it will hurt like hell, and tear your heart out.

I know!

Remember these words - Don't do it!

Feel sorry for you... It could be worse.. you could be in bed naked, exposed, not covered and have your spouse cover you up with the sheets... Oh.. and she wasnt being nice by tring to keep me warm either..<br />
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P.S. your avatar with those baby blue panties and nice round cheeks .. are .. freakin hot!!

can you add me thank you

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Look for ur happiness babe :-)

It's hard to find the right person to be in an affair with. They can be clingy and fall in love and you can too. Maybe you really want an online affair because you want to be listened to and have meaningful conversation. You want your opinions heard and understood and you just want to be yourself. These are the things that keep us in an affair otherwise its just sex. Affairs are about love, romance, flirting, listening, getting to know and expressing dreams and goals and life. It's like being in love with a best friend who won't take you for granted. The drawbacks are being in love and not being able to come home to that person everyday. But it might also be the thing to help you tolerate home life.

OR, he might just realized that he is gay. I mean WOW!! You are EXTREMELY HOT!!! and no straight guy can resist you.

Do what makes you feel good!

Being taken for granted sucks. We were put here to be appreciated and if it doesn't happen, eventually we look for it somewhere else. Good luck. A lot of us guys are pigs, but not all of us.

I feel the same way whenever I try to be romantic or anything he just says thats the last thing on his mind because of work and stress from other things. Its disappointing im only 27