First off I have to say I love my wife. I dont know if it was medical problems that have driven her sex life away as she says or if it is something else. She refuses to talk to me about it clearly. Either way, she wants nothing to do with sex. She wants nothing to do with anything that might even lead to sex. She refuses to even give me an old fashioned ******* now. I've tried everything I can think of. All I get is "no" or pushed away. I've suggested counseling but she says she loves me (and I believe she does) but she just doesn't want sex anymore. We are 44 years old. Every time she refuses me, turns me away again and again I feel less like a man. I also feel less like doing things around the house. Where's the reward? So I've come to the conclusion I need a girlfriend. One who doesn't expect marriage since I dont plan to divorce my wife. I just need the physical intamacy the joy of the sex act and the simple release of stress that sex can provide. The nearest thing to sex between us is when we go to sleep she allows me to hold a breast. Not enough.