Human Nature, Our Society And MarriageI am a happily married man with children in my 40s.Today I am here to discuss what I came to believe with my life experience and others around me.
Marriage is a wonderful thing that our society invented to mainly protect our children and have a life long companion, someone to come home to and share life with. But when it comes to human nature marriage is nothing more than just a companionship after about 3-4 years.
I believe someday our society will come to an understanding and acceptance to separate marriage and sexual intimacy and fulfillment's.
By nature we men will seek out new and wonderful women to propagate our gene.
Women on the other hand by nature will seek out men with better quality for better offspring.
So it is natural for us to loose sexual interest and intimacy over time. It is also natural to build a strong emotional and social bond with each other by living with each other for so long. So, it becomes difficult to leave each other specially when there are children involved.
So we do the talk and the counseling and it works for a while but doesn't last. Ultimately we make the hard decision to either divorce or scarifies or worst we cheat.
I personally don't hold people responsible for cheating, because I get it. Our desire is so strong even the public figures including President Clinton cannot control themselves. I believe we unfairly hold the cheaters responsible on a moral ground when they are doing what comes naturally.
I did some research on swinging. A successful swinging couple is a happy couple. I think they are more mature in this field, they know what's coming and prevent that from happening by becoming swinger. Unfortunately My wife is completely against it. BTW did I mentioned if your relationship sucks you don't wanna be swingers
I also saw documentary that in some Chinese village the husband used to go and visit someone Else's wife after the night fall.
Earlier I mentioned that I am happily married, and I believe I am, we love each other very much and have no intention to divorce, no matter what, always romantic, anytime I talk about 'it' she is interest but we avarage may be once a month. My mind wonders, but I try to do the "So called" right thing, Lots of self control, is it really need to be this way!
Thanks for reading.