Thinking, Thinking, Thinking

I've been with my husband for approx. 5 and a half years now and we've been married for two.  It's not that I don't love him or that I want to end  our relationship but I've always been a big believer that no single person can provide everything emotionally and intellectually for another person - that's one reason we have friends right?  So why is it, that we (read mainstream culture) believe that a single person should be able to provide everything sexually for someone else?  Maybe no-one really believes this but we think that we should...

 

What I'm mostly wondering however, is how to go about discussing this as a real option for my husband and I.  The topic has come up before and we've talked about it briefly but never with any real seriousness and I've gotten the feeling from him that although he's not against the idea of an open relationship, he's unsure whether it would really work.  Does anyone have any advice on how to proceed? Or am I just being selfish by wanting an open relationship?

Random11 Random11
31-35, F
2 Responses Mar 4, 2010

Hey! erihead1, or Lany13, or whatever you are going by now... this is your husband. You never even mentioned this to me. I had to find it out here. But guess what Erin... if you want a divorce, I am more than happy to give it to you. I don't want to lose you, but I have never cheated on you or lied. and I wont be married to someone who doesn't want me. You should call me and let me know today sometime. I want someone who loves me for me. and if you don't, maybe we shouldn't be together. But it seems a terrible shame to waste all these years. but its ur call.

Hey there, I only just saw this. I don't know who you thought this was but my name certainly isn't Erin. Almost 4 years later is probably a bit late to be replying but I hope you didn't break up with her on the basis of this post as I'm not her...

Yeah, I've decided it's not really that great an idea if you actually care about your significant other and don't want to end your relationship. Maybe it does actually work for some people, and all power to them but I don't think it'd work for us. As for making your relationship an open one without your husband knowing? That doesn't compute, it's not open unless you both agree to it. I'm certainly not into judging but would just say that if you really are unhappy, then maybe you should consider leaving...