Have I Forgotten How To Have Sex?

I have been thinking allot about this subject lately. I have been married for 6-7 years now (2nd time) and as most marriages go ours has turned into a sexless one, While it is depressing to think that something so wonderful could be cast aside for so long is disturbing, but not as disturbing as what I am about to say.......

When I think about sex, it is but a fond memory, when I see people that attract me I think the normal thoughts on what activities we could share together, but then I started thinking "So what if I did hook up with someone?" It was then that I realized that it had been so long I was not sure I would be remember how to move things along, and would I be able to perform? While I am sure that this is incredibly normal for someone that has not had any sex at all for over a year, it is still quite unsettling to me. I do have an active imagination, I do have fantasies, I do have the sex drive, just not an open and willing partner.

Of course being married tends to complicate matters, but I cant help but think that there has to be more than self love at this point. I am wondering exactly what I would say to someone to move things forward. I do not wish to "purchase" sex, and I am not real sure of the ad's on craigslist. Hell I just dont know what to think....lol

Any ideas?


sammy444 sammy444
46-50, M
7 Responses Aug 6, 2010

I feel your pain!!! I've been married for thirteen years and been with the same girl for twentyone years. We are middle school sweethearts and now the sex is ok, but I need more. Her clock is not turning as fast as mine is and this is going to lead to big problems in our future.

hey now guy's stop all the wife bashing. There are plenty of us wifes out there who love sex who's husbands cut us off, i don't know, are they crazy. Keep looking we are out there.

I live in mid nebraska and i thought all women disliked sex after they were married for a few years. I am looking to find one in my area who wants to have sex.

Yup! What is it about marriage that makes women less interested in sex? My wife Virginia used to be a hot rod before we got married. Now, after a kid, she has lost her libido big time! She's gained weight big time and all of this I can say nothing about otherwise she feels "offended". Thank God for internet Erotica! I don't have to rome around these dangerous streets of the capital looking for a thrill when I can click it up in a flash. Certainly, I'd rather smell and touch a real body, but it keeps me out of trouble!<br />
If you are going to make a move on someone, do it out of town. Just hang out at a pub, sit with some women at the bar and your averages are very hi to hook up. Avoid personal discourse about family background. Just talk about sports, movies, current events, and move into kinky talk while you both drink. And whappa, you'll be back at the hotel banging in no time! Give yourself a day to recover before you must return home and be careful not to come across too nice, which is a give away for feeling guilty about "something". Life is short, have sex! Take it from a pro!

Oops, roam not rome! And don't forget the rubbers! Otherwise, you'll have to do a lot of licking and sucking, and fingering, which is cool too, I guess!!!

Yup! What is it about marriage that makes women less interested in sex? My wife Virginia used to be a hot rod before we got married. Now, after a kid, she has lost her libido big time! She's gained weight big time and all of this I can say nothing about otherwise she feels "offended". Thank God for internet Erotica! I don't have to rome around these dangerous streets of the capital looking for a thrill when I can click it up in a flash. Certainly, I'd rather smell and touch a real body, but it keeps me out of trouble!<br />
If you are going to make a move on someone, do it out of town. Just hang out at a pub, sit with some women at the bar and your averages are very hi to hook up. Avoid personal discourse about family background. Just talk about sports, movies, current events, and move into kinky talk while you both drink. And whappa, you'll be back at the hotel banging in no time! Give yourself a day to recover before you must return home and be careful not to come across too nice, which is a give away for feeling guilty about "something". Life is short, have sex! Take it from a pro!

I can't believe most marriages are sexless. Try my Adoring Husband letters concept before you give up and seek others.<br />
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