Loser 27 Year Old No Girlfriend Ever.

I am a 27 year old guy who has never had a girlfriend .Never kissed a girl and obviously havent had sex with any girl. I am a biological failure, and my life is a waste. I am not single because i have never tried but because i am not physically attractive, as i have been told many times. I am short being 5 7, and my face isn't nice either.
I write this not to get any sympathy or motivation. I feel my existence is a burden to this planet, my family and nature, since i am not needed in this society for propagation. Why am i alive ? Can i kill myself somehow to stop this sadness that i feel ?
I am a disappointment to my mother and sister. I know how happy a mother feels when her son has a girlfriend, i have seen my friend's mother's happiness, they seem soo proud that their sons have a girl. My mother has asked me sometimes over the years weather i have a girlfriend and always my answer has been in the negative, i know she expects me to have a girlfriend but being a mother does not realize what a ugly piece of **** her son is. I know i am a disappointment to my mother and i want to die and donate my organs. but other times i think of living because i fear who will take care of her when she gets older, so i pause. All my friends have always had girlfriends, they ask me where is mine? some have tried to ask their girlfriends to set me up with someone, but nothing happens, always rejection.
It is okay that girls don't like me because they do not find me attractive, but my question is what the **** am i alive then? or why the **** do i want a girlfriend when i can't have one? what is the point of me living when i am not needed?
I have tried dating sites and my messages are nice and interesting to start conversations on, but not one date, lol. It takes many different dates to find one girlfriend for normal guys and i don't have even one date. I do not blame the girls for not finding me attractive but i am frustrated with this failure, i sometimes cry, i hate crying, and i hate those who do. but my predicament is such that i can not change it, i can't be taller or more attractive, i cant change myself physically. If it were money that i wanted to earn i would have bled to work for it but attraction does not work that way, isn't it?
I am not a geek and i have always been the guy who has fun and always been happy with anything.I have been a fighter all my life never bent down for anyone and never hurt anyone, if i like something or want something i go for it, am not the guy who sissies out ever.
I have been in street fights, and have done many things which would be considered risky by normal people. I am saying this about myself to establish that i am not the nice guy type so don't give me the nice guy bullshit.
I know i am ugly, or at least unattractive because i have been told so by many girls, and i can see it in their eyes because their behavior is different with me and with other attractive guys or sort of guys who are better looking than me.
A girl had told me when i told her about having a crush on some girl in my class and her reply was "nothing will ever happen, so forget it?". Another girl commented "do you ever think any girl would ever want to be with this guy".
In India we can do an arranged marriage, but i do not want this. Because no girls who have a choice in choosing her husband would choose me, and those who do not have a choice and would normally dislike me will be put to marriage with me, and i do not want to commit such a crime with any girl, it would be like a rape, like hell for her, wouldn't it?
People just give me some kind of a solution, may be suicide, tell me some way i could end all this unhappiness and this distress,Some quick way to die

I do not smile anymore i do not laugh anymore all i do is watch comedy shows and try to laugh like an idiot hoping to feel some happiness through comedy. I never thought of having a girlfriend desperately, but when i realized that i do not have one because i just do not have the aptitude or maybe the capability to have one it just distresses me more.I live clean and i am clean i dress well and show that i am happy to everyone but on the inside i just cant seem to get this thought from my mind, i have hobbies and interests but that is just a way for me to not think about the reality,pursuing a hobby in no way changes my situation.

Additional Details
* this question is not for attention, what kind of attention could i possibly gather from this question,
pity? you feel i am looking for some girl to pity me and date me, sorry that is no way to start a relationship.
*i wrote all this not to be corrected or be argued upon my information, what i write here is definite and true to my observations.
*and as for people who tell me to find ugly girls, on the dating site i have been rejected by them too, i also feel to go for a girl because she is ugly is wrong, to go for a girl because she may have low standards is wrong, anyone who goes for a girl thinking she is ugly and easy is not correct, where is the respect here? going for someone whom you feel is lower is disrespecting them, what kind of a relationship would that be?

loserwastedlife loserwastedlife
26-30, M
6 Responses Jan 6, 2013

your story is almost like mine except i have no friends in shcool from 5th grade all the way to the end of high school everyone has ahted me this is not a delusion even the teachers hated me my solution for you is the same as me just give up on ever getting a girlfriend i know the pain in your chest will hurt it hurts me 24/7 i have died inside and will never be happy i know this isnt the answer your looking for but rest assured there are people like me who will die and no one will even remember my name im srry but you will find someone hell ive never even be hugged by a girl lol sigh when i die the thing pretending to be god will answer for its crimes against us after all why is it that nice guys die alone? i am reaper and i was born from the sadness and anger that was suppressed in this vessal

I have always heard guys say that is why they became a doctor or dentist or rock star. So they could get woman. Most guys go to stip clubs and pay 40 bucks extra in the private dance. Even very good looking rich guys do some pretty desperate things. Not sure if anyone told you this before. But everyone is despreate. Thats why ppl will do anything for money.

You're Indian?

Yes i am an indian.

i am not like those indians who you read about who cheat foreign girls to run after their parents i am not a cheat. I am too honest to live on this planet.

haha. Wasn't going to say any of that. Didn't even think of any of that.
I think you should probably try to make new friends first, maybe get comfortable around girls? I feel like you're just jumping to conclusions. I get it, girls can be judgmental and awful, but I'm sure you'll find someone nice if you feel comfortable with who YOU are first. I know, it'll take time, but it'll be worth it.
Ever tried Yoga? Join a class. Calm yourself. Help yourself feel good about yourself. Then you could maybe think about dating.

I dont know i tried everything, thank you anyways.

It is okay for girls to be judgmental because guys are too but still i have always hoped to find someone but it just seems that i will never.

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I can relate to you...I have a dpressing life as well... im only 14 but i tryed going through suicide many times before...as a matter of fact i almost died from getting into a car crash because my life is messerable...if you dont believe me read my stories there very depressing... i hope you feel better and can find yourself a girlfriend very soon! god bless you

thank you

You're self-centered. Not every girl out there sees you as ugly. You're so obsessed with this lie that you don't notice those admiring you. Even your mother know that you can have a girl-friend. Become more handsome than anyone around you by being a successful person (money-wise), cultivate a good attitude and always look meat. Then look for a girl.

Hi :-)
Please refrain from making judgements about me when you do not know me, i am far from being self centered. Do not make a fool of yourself by calling me self centered. I know who admire me and i know what respect is.
Yes i am obsessed with this truth because i am the only one in my friend circle who has never ever had a girlfriend, an not just that but i have been made fun of that no girl would ever want to be with me, not because i am untidy or am a sissy but because i am ugly and unattractive looking.
Anyways stupid how did you know i am not neat and i do not have a good attitude.
To answer your statement about making money and becoming handsome, it is total nonsense. Money does not buy love , money can get you any girl you want but not her love you only get a trophy with money not a person. I have always had the most amazing attitude and i am neat.

Iam sorry to hear ur story that realy hurts but i wish i was u,never fell inlove,never kissed any1 in life,oh God!iam always being disappointed by guys,all u need to know is love hurts,iam quite sure u r the most succeded guy in life bcoz nothing has ever disturbed u such as ur heart is broken by the other girl who have been cheatin or u have hurt the other girl somewhere,i so wish i never had a boyfriend in life,maybe my life would have been cool forever,dnt ever think of killing urself even oneday,God knows why its being this way,everything happens for a purpose my brother,gud luck never kill urself,if u do u shalll not get in the Lord's premises,take care

You are being disappointed by guys, at least you have guys liking you and loving you, besides it is also partly your mistake or error when you get cheated by guys..
Honestly if you have been cheated by guys many times then it is your mistake it is your error that you always choose the wrong guys, i may be wrong but i feel you are the type of girl that never gives a guy like me a chance ever and keeps going for the wrong guys and then blames the guys for what happens to herself.

Hey I don't think you should give up everything isn't about looks. If that was the case then I probably would have given my first kiss away to a jerk. I still haven't kissed anyone or had a relationship either... I don't mean to be insulting when I say this but, if you show a person who you really are and you don't hide bitter feelings inside then someday you will find the right person. I think you should focus more on making yourself happy again and having more self respect for yourself. I have been teased and ridiculed about not looking a certain way or not acting the way I look but it isn't my fault that some can't look past the superficial line and see the real me. Honestly I believe it is wrong to assume something about someone unless you know them.

thank you for your reply, but i know my situation is offroad and can not be helped i just want my unhappyness to end soon, i just want god to take me away.

I hope you find the very best person for you. I'm sure God has a purpose for you better than death.

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