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Caught Up.

It is so easy to get caught up in this online world and neglect the "real" world.

The internet can be an addiction and online friends are the feul that feeds the fire. 

I would be lost without the internet; I love having the ability to conect with people, share my life, read about other peoples lives, and have innumerable sourses of information right at my fingertips.  I think as long as you are smart about it this online world can serve many purposes.

As nice as kind e-mails, flirtatious remarks, and letters of deep undestanding are - there is still something that is not enough.

I have spent a lot of time on the internet (EP specifically) for the last week and have pretty much neglected the other aspects of my life.

Yes, the one thing that the itnernet doesn't provide you with; physical contact.  It is not just sex - it is that touch on the arm that connects you to somebody, the tone in the voice, the lowering of the head, the way in which a person positions their body when they are speaking. I will need to find a balance.

annalea annalea 22-25, F 24 Responses Apr 30, 2010

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AMEN, Annalea!!!!! You hit the proverbial nail on the proverbial head, lol.

Couldn't agree more. People tend to get too comfortable living their online life. Perfect example is Second Life - and the damage that it can have on existing family situations.

I feel very much like you do, but I became sick and had to go to doctors so often I ended up changing to a home based high school. All my friends dropped me like a rock, even if they lived close, or I bumped into them at the mall. They would ignore my attempts at talking to them though phone calls/texts/online, and in person they acted like I didnt exist and they didnt know me. After I got better I moved to a new state, I've been here 5 almost 6 months and havent been able to make a single friend, despite all my trying. Sleezy men and teen guys hit on me all the time (but I'm a lesbian) and I'm just looking for some friends ): At the craft store, at fairs and festivals, even grocery shopping and the mall. After all this I became active in EP for a form of friends. Still alone in life...

My community:
/groups/Am-A-Lesbian-Hucow/605310

Your honesty is so disarming and beautiful. Thanks for the courage to share your feelings. I totally can relate to it.

I just wanted to say that I really appreciate all your all you did for me and my family DR. humenhealingtemple@yahoo.com You really helped me through what I think was the most difficult time of my life. Your kindness and caring goes way beyond the products you sell.and I hope that I will someday meet you. You will always be in my prayers and I will never forget what you have done for me for bringing back my happiness and healing my sick child.

u r on the same boat as me...the same is there i m craving for..n then..searching it on9..which iknow i cudn't get there..:(..<br />
bt still not stopping ..

Damn what you said was very touching...no pun intended<br />
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~Nick<br />
www.thoughtsvent.com

Oh Honey, I agree with you 100 percent I need lots of physical touching loving, caring ,caressing, we all do. When ever you need me I will be here for you.

I like seeing **** as it shows me how other people live and I have really learned a lot about how people feel about sex which is such an important part of our lives. Physical contact is missing however!

I like seeing **** as it shows me how other people live and I have really learned a lot about how people feel about sex which is such an important part of our lives. Physical contact is missing however!

I have found that I am inspired to find people that I can have physical contact with from my online experiences. Make sense?

I totally agree with you

i have to agree with what youre saying im always looking for balance in my life too its difficult to achieve but not impossible

it's easy to get caught up in 'this' world because we can make it what we want it to be...choose to be open or choose to live out a fantasy...but always have to go back to reality...

Agree totally. Your comments make a lot of sense. The problem w/ this site is that you can say and do anything. Indulge in physical and emotional fantasies that we would never seek (or even find) in the real world. I think we all crave the sense of someone caring about us. This site does provide that in some ways. The problem w/ the on line version; it's not there in the middle of the night, in a crisis, to share accomplishments and share a beer when things don't go right. Also not the same as holding someone in your arms that you truly love and care about. I certainly agree w/ your on line addiction comment (!!). I discovered this site a couple of days and have neglected the real world 99%. If you're in a relationship, is it even appropriate? Kind of like having an affair. The problem w/ all the time typing is that it might be better spent talking to real people and contributing to the world in meaningful ways. Hope you find the right balance. Thanks for making me think about it too.

I bang against people in subway cars...:-)

It's all real just different sort of real and whatever helps you through the day, as long as it hurts no-one is good by me.

I never thought about it but I only have one real life male friend and several online female friends who I like more than anyone. I have more men in my circle(EP) than women. I spend more time on EP but I talk to more people in other forums.OMG I havn't shaken someones hand in almost 2 years.

You brought me to my senses<br />
When I think of reasons why I am not as "real" offline as I am on the internet, I come up with "I don't trust people enough to tell them"<br />
But who can say that people online are more trustworthy than the people offline?<br />
Thank you for this post, it got me something ot think about. Imagine the people in the past who passed on stories to each other for leisure and wisdom.

PollyDoll: I should have thought of that "on screen and off screen" Instead of using "real life". My life on EP is very real, and so are my friends... A lot of people "on screen" hold a bigger piece of my heart than those "off screen". <br />
Thank you very much for your comment!

I agree with ALL of the above. I find it hard to talk face to face sometimes. But here, on the internet, I can say things I wouldn't ordinarily.

I think the Internet is more real than the real world sometimes.

I miss and crave for that too. At least you can hear that voice sometimes :)

I think you say it well, Annalea.