So These Days I Need A Hug Badly

Especially from this one person (though of course hugs from others would be lovely as well).
Except I'm sooooo afraid, scared to ask. Until now I kept over-thinking, what if he refuses to hug me?
Yesterday I had this insight. We've hugged before. He would probably hug me if I asked. I'm just ashamed. I am scared, yes. Now I wonder more along the lines of, what if he does say yes and hug me? What am I really afraid of?
This is difficult. & after a week full of being around people who were very open to hugs (especially one of them) and after getting a whole bunch of hugs last Friday, I need even more. Like a drug or something.
I'm so lonely here these days.
naranja naranja
26-30, F
5 Responses Aug 3, 2011

Thanks TG! I'd hug you too! :)

It is always okay for you to just hug as far as I'm concerned. Your "victim" just needs to learn to appreciate it. You have good intentions. Like the Animals song goes: "Yes I'm just a soul whose intentions are good. oh lord, please don't let me be misunderstood!".<br />
Don't overthink things. Affection is good. The Jason Mraz song I'm Yours also has some excellent points on that. Even though it has been overplayed on radios and butchered around campfires. Cheer up naranja (:

*smiles* you're welcome. <br />
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It is sad that we cannot just hug someone whenever we want to. I know I'm always unsure of whether or not I should hug someone even though I want to give hugs (and get them) really bad all the time. The hug from the right person...there's nothing like it, is there. It can make you feel loved, safe, and warm all at once.

I could have said the same thing, I totally relate! I agree, very sad, I wish it weren't so easy to mistake hugs for something else :( Also, reading your comment I realize why i wish I could ask ... I want to get a hug, not just go hug him / someone ... I just need that initiative and support these days. Besides, I find it way too difficult to ask for what i need. I hope you don't have as much difficulty with these things.

aww thanks! *hug* & well, I'm not sure if it's ok for me to just hug ... sigh. Thanks for the advice though, it's always good to hear opinions - you never know when they come in very handy! :)

Hugs are amazing and special. *HUG*<br />
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Don't ask, just hug him and he will hug you back :)