Sometimes the need just becomes overwhelming. Like if you aren't held, you will explode with the longing to feel someone touch you...hold you, skin to skin.

I'm scared to death I'll never have that in my life again.
msdamgoode msdamgoode
41-45, F
20 Responses Apr 27, 2012

Why do you think you won't have it again?

I can relate to that feeling. The intensity is so huge that it overwhelms and makes you do something you would never do in your right mind. Don't be scared, reach out and take it!

I am in your position myself. My husband whom I loved dearly had a major stroke last September. His moods swing from indifferent, to hateful. Anger to a whimpering child. One moment he's loving and the next he's hateful and cruel. I don't want to live this life anymore. I NEED to be loved. To have kindness and affection. Not only can he control his limbs he cannot control what he thinks or feels.
Yes I used 'love' in the past tense.
I have become reacquainted with a man I dated from my teen years. Bill has opened my heart and I have hope again. I have transferred all my feelings I'd had for Robert to Bill. Yet Bill wont meet up with me till I am free. And that could only be if Robert were to die. Sadly I am wishing this would happen. All I have left for Robert are memories. And I don't think he has any of those thoughts in his head. I visit him at his Assisted Living, and find it harder and harder to go.

Give it some time, and you will have it again.

Been their done that - but sometimes it nice to dream and wonder where the feeling has gone. Oh to be touch or to be held just once again. So so lonely

I feel very much like you. Not even about sex, I'm craving the physical touch of a friend, a hug, or an unexpected snuggle from a lover. I became sick and had to go to doctors so often I ended up changing to a home based high school. All my friends dropped me like a rock, even if they lived close, or I bumped into them at the mall. They would ignore my attempts at talking to them though phone calls/texts/online, and in person they acted like I didnt exist and they didnt know me. After I got better I moved to a new state, I've been here 5 almost 6 months and havent been able to make a single friend, despite all my trying. Sleezy men and teen guys hit on me all the time (but I'm a lesbian) and I'm just looking for some friends ): At the craft store, at fairs and festivals, even grocery shopping and the mall. After all this I became active in EP for a form of friends. Still alone in life...

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I just wanted to say that I really appreciate all your all you did for me and my family DR. You really helped me through what I think was the most difficult time of my life. Your kindness and caring goes way beyond the products you sell.and I hope that I will someday meet you. You will always be in my prayers and I will never forget what you have done for me for bringing back my happiness and healing my sick child.

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Being lonely when you are alone is normal and natural. It is a drive to make you go outside your comfort zone and meet new people. Be lonely in a marriage is just living in hell. It is not life, just existing.

I have that fear too. I haven't been kissed in about twelve years. People need human touch to be healthy but when you are sick and don't have anybody in your life, it's like some twisted kind of prison.

Find ways to meet like minded people - volunteer, join a club, take a community college class, whatever. If you need physical contact, don't forget animals - a dog or, perhaps, a cat. A pet can make a world of difference with simple comforting touch. They are the best example of what unconditional love really is!

Agreed. My dog is *my baby*. But I wrote this before leaving my marriage...things are a bit different now.

I know exactly how you feel. Sometimes I am shaken by the feeling.

You will have that in your life again. I think itis like most things that we want, when we stop focusing on the happens or when you least expect it, expect it. Hang in there :)

If only we had a crystal ball, so we'd know the exact day we will meet that person whose touch we cherish. Then, the wait wouldn't seem so difficult.

Yes...that's it exactly. My mom has been alone for 40 years. I don't want to be my mother, please lord.

Conversely, my mom found new "love" within a year of each of her husbands' demise {wink}. We set our own course...the key is to get yourself out there.

Yeah, I to find some single friend, pronto! Not working outside th house limits who I come into contact with. Frustrating.

Oops..friends, plural, lol

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i used to be scared of never having intimacy again... i'm not scared anymore, i've accepted that this is the way things are. i am alone, and there is no possible reason why that would change...<br />
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i'm a reclusive, shy, introvert... and the normal trying to feel good messages of hope just doesn't cut it. <br />
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but it doesn't scare me anymore to grow old alone... it just makes me sad...

On a night like tonight the need is beyond unbearable.

Personally my need for physical contact can more regularly eclipse my desire for sex. Unless I have human contact I literally feel physically ill, depressed and a nervous wreck. I am a self confessed intimacy lover and without a regular fix I am no good to anybody let alone myself.<br />
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It's good to find people here who share similar emotions however painful.

I know...I have another story in a similar vein that talks about how babies fail to thrive without human touch.
I feel like I'm failing to thrive myself...

i know how you feel, i get that feeling also

I've got this bad too. I currently have an intense crush on someone, just because they rested their arm against mine a few times, and touched my shoulder once or twice.

I know. It's like giving a starving man one bite of food. And that one bite tastes sooo very, very good.

Yeah...that's for sure. I keep hoping it will happen again...sigh!

Hey, At least you're young. At your age, there should be plenty of men out there for you.<br />
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If i DO get divorced, I feel like finding someone will be harder than it was before. I'm not unattractive, but I'm shy IRL, and coupled with some body insecurities ...well, who knows? I still try to make myself feel as sexy as possible, I'm just terrified of starting over.

I know just how u feel. For my part I m worried I may never have that intensity of physical intimacy again. N to grow old that way? Would I have to buy a service. If you know what I mean. Would I have to reduce myself to that?