Discipline

It's an intriguing thought, but is the multiple of women to men or equal. My mind says it's more likely that a man would have multiple women. Is that terribly cynical of me?

Yes, terribly cynical indeed. As many men get off on the idea of sharing a woman as on the idea of having a harem. Consider the prevalence of **** where groups of guys have sex with the same female. Even if you're right, that man with multiple women might be worth 3 men in the sack ;)

Or just exhausted :-)

LOL nevermind him. Human sexual organs are actually designed in a way that implies "***** competition" was an evolutionary norm. The shape of the penis makes it suck the last guy's ***** out when thrusting, the first spurt clears the way, the last leaves a poison trail for the next guy. There's more, but the evidence is pretty overwhelming that monogamy is nothing near our natural state.

Gosh, who knew that sex, when broken down that way, was so brutal.

Not necessarily brutal. Early humans lived in cooperative hunter-gatherer societies. Chances are that the non-monogamy was entirely consensual and every tribe was basically a wandering ****. Our organs resemble those of Bonobos more than any other primate, and you've probably heard of THEM

Imagine: a couple of hours a day devoted to necessities like food and shelter, and the rest leisure with a gang of super-fit peers! Why the hell did we ever invent agriculture?!

Oh yes, I've heard of them, but interestingly I don't like them, though I don't like chimpanzees in general. Possible because out of the animal kingdom they are most like humans.

Beats me :-)

lol I think I'd agree with you re: circle of hell, but I suppose it would only be hellish because you'd never be able to satisfy your needs. Now that would indeed be hell itself. I love that you and your wife have built a wonderful relationship from a purely lustful foundation. It gives me a sweet sense of hope xx

Well thank god I wouldn't be able to satisfy my needs. If I did, I wouldn't have anything to live for! Although, as I would be in hell, I'd probably be dead anyway... But I might be in a lot better company than among the saved. (I am not a great believer in hell, as you may have guessed...) Again, on a more serious note, my wife and I met when we were in our late thirties and we have friends who met in their fifties and who are still in love at age 80+ so there is always hope. Keep plugging!

That's a very good point and one that had evaded me. Hmmm not to satisfy one's needs is better than satisfying them. It's a thought.

Sadly, I've had a friend of mine choose me as part of the serious (sexless) group in an arrangement like this. For others in the serious group she might have had different reasons, but in my case, I think that while she knew I am struggling with the slow process of pushing through divorce without any cooperation, she still didn't want to be involved in the process.

Ultimately, it works for a while, but over time all the "serious" men feel rejected. I lasted longer than most but in the end it feels like a special snub: "Others share my body, but you're not in that group." So, now, like the rest, I've given up on her.

That's a sad state of affairs. I don't think in reality that I could separate men like that and anyway, I can't believe that there aren't men out there that can be both fun and sexual. In fact I know that's not the case because I have been lucky enough to find that combination.