Forgotten

Try and find yourself a nice man but if you can't...

Get your hair and makeup done leave your panties at home and find a guy to S h a g you if still undefeated get your T I T S out xxxx

I crave my husband's touch all the time. He is never home. When he does come home its for a quick week of sex and time with the children. I miss the dating and the excitement. He is my world but I sure and lonely.

Sweetheart, find yourself a nice man.

God made us to crave one another, it's sad when this feeling overwhelms us.



Thank you for sharing.

understand you feelings

lets have sex, what's ur address.....m coming over

I snuggle with my parents cats when I feel like that. They are way better than any therapy and any serious talks with friends. Also they are cheap (they require cat food).

It seems you have built walls around yourself without realising. You are afraid of being hurt again. I found this deeply moving and I wish I could just hug you this minute. Do you live in the U.K.? I hope one day you will find happiness and my heart goes out to you. Millions if kisses xxx

I know this feeling & I think it is very brave of you to open up like that.



Maybe the hugs from others feel weird because, you have been made to feel unworthy of affection. Thats how I feel. My partner has brow beaten me and with held affection & attempts to blame it on me when I ask to be close.



Don't deny urself pleasure... u deserve it.



best of Luck

are you still there? I will send you hugs and kisses all the time. Maybe we can just be there for each other? i would tackle you and smother you with kisses if we ever meet just to make you feel good...Hoping we become great friends!

Billy

So how r u now after 3 years, kisses

If there is any way you can keep yourself from shutting down then do it. I'm past the "shut down" phase and I have no idea how to get back and I regret every second of it. I wouldn't wish this kind of inner pain on my worst enemy.

Try massage. The power of tough can be very healing. A professional massage need not be personel, but you will be feeling the touch you crave.

I know what you mean! Sometimes it actually causes physical pain. We can't do this forever.

I think you are going to be ok. You are writing of your fear,so I believe you are being pro active instead of just holding back your feelings, Next step is to make your feeling known in person one you trust some-one who may be able to help. Not some pimp just an introduction to someone you will enjoy the company of. I am in the same situation in a way, I have moved on got sober then became ill lost a leg and am dealing with poor health. I was fine without intimacy for a long period but now feel as I am missing out on a lot that life has to offer.

I spent 25 years in a sexless, no touching, no kissing, no nothing marriage. The best thing I ever did for myself is leave and begin to take charge of my own life. I have met a couple of men, but nothing lasting. I really want someone to hold me. I love to kiss and cuddle, but am alone and crave the contact of another person. I keep trying online dating without too much luck. I suppose if I only wanted sex I could go to Craigs list, but that is a little scarry. Right now I think I would even like to do phone sex if I could at least talk to someone.

Still, being alone while alone is better than being alone while with someone.

Curiosity Kitten, I feel for you. I am very touchy/feely. It's not about sex...but human to human, body contact is good for the body, heart, soul, and our mind (peace) as well. I wish you were relatively close to where we could throw a blanket down at a park or the beach here in sunny So. Calif. to cuddle, embrace, relax, and recharge your batteries. Say hello sometime...I would love to chat with you!

Curiosity Kitten, I feel for you. I am very touchy/feely. It's not about sex...but human to human, body contact is good for the body, heart, soul, and our mind (peace) as well. I wish you were relatively close to where we could throw a blanket down at a park or the beach here in sunny So. Calif. to cuddle, embrace, relax, and recharge your batteries. Say hello sometime...I would love to chat with you!

Curiosity Kitten, I feel for you. I am very touchy/feely. It's not about sex...but human to human, body contact is good for the body, heart, soul, and our mind (peace) as well. I wish you were relatively close to where we could throw a blanket down at a park or the beach here in sunny So. Calif. to cuddle, embrace, relax, and recharge your batteries. Say hello sometime...I would love to chat with you!

I recently met my perfect soul mate. I am 9 years older and wonder if the age difference is so important as we are both over 70. Unfortunately for me she believes that I am and has returned to her estranged partner. They are both strong minded and seem to quarrel frequently but she says that she loves him and especially the sex. The frustrating thing is that I had the opportunity 8 years ago of meeting her (only met her as we were visiting a friend in the hospital at the time) - If only I had known then!

What would you do?

omg you explained ALMOST exactly what i feel

That decision is in your court. Sometimes you just need to make a booty call and you may find that one of those booty calls will turn into so much more. I think you are feeling insecure because you are separated and probably will be going through a divorce, but I am telling you there is life during a divorce and lots of life after a divorce. There are those of us who need exactly what you are seeking, so try to find a giver and then give back. We only receive what we are willing to give to others.

Everyone says "don't accept this" or "take back your life"! Great advice, but you're forgetting one thing. How...

Sweety I was so in love with my x wife i went down the same road for a while.When I finaly turned loose it was so amazing I want ever go their again.

All I can say is that I understand. It's been over 5 years since I have been intimate with my wife. Even today she shys away from any physical contact, Yes, I too wonder if I'll ever experience it again.

Good Day, I hope this note finds you encouraged. Life, marriage, future or even where you presently stand is a decision to where you can choose to fold or to continue to FIGHT for your dreams. life on all sides ought to incorporate fighting for that which you desire.



I see that families, marriages, relationships, government... is being impacted greatly to the point where those things you were accustomed to living and being apart of has a missing link and many are doing their own things only to experiencing lack, failures, poverty, heart aches, hopelessness. but I desire to experience and live and give my family LIFE and LIFE MORE ABUNDANTLY. That is what is promised to me and for me and for my family. But I must make a conscious decision to FIGHT and equip myself and associate myself around or with people who can help to lead me to places where they're, but help to bring me to where they're and better yet for me to surpass them, so I can leave a legacy for my children and my children's children.



I have started with the basics, music/media. I'm careful what I watch and who I listen to because these things can potentially influence me for negative. My marriage was on the rocks like Ck is experiencing, but my wife and I saw where we were heading and she didn't dig it and we had to fight our postures and our thought processes and direction in which our lives were going because if we didn't seek change and HELP, then our child's life is going where we were going. Thankfully however, our path was and is being changed daily, because we sought help from a pastor from our church and I confessed to hidden sins and problems we were facing.



In our home, we were like roommates and my wife hated it, not intentionally, but looking at our histories on my side, my grand folks slept in different beds, so did my mom and here it was I was doing the same things. So my wife asked that we NOT do that. Some nights its tough because our media is in the living room where you can find me most of the time. That when I come home from a long day, I have to unwind and I do so in front of the tv and I would fall asleep there as well, when my wife is inside the bedroom doing her homework, she would fall asleep there.



Our resurrection comes through much prayer, prayer, prayer, that has given us hope to see and to be in love today. I almost lost my darling, anything of value is never easy, but they make you stronger. So we make certain life music is being played in the car, our mp3's, at home, at times we fall asleep listen to it. Its an effective system, for the same is true for pregnant mothers. We listen and read the bible often, my wife does well and my reading is improving, our prayer times are different and we come together at times to pray.



God is faithful however to keep us in his will and he constantly sending others to encourage us and to let us know that he is indeed for us. So despite where you're CK, there is HOPE. Today make a decision to not become overwhelmed and seek to look elsewhere, instead FIGHT gurl to love and be loved. Music: www.klove.com Prayer.Counseling: 1.800.759.0700



http://blogs.cbn.com/Marriage911/archive/2011/05/24/why-women-leave-and-what-men-can-do-about-it.aspx

You will meet somebody and you will soon and will not have to crave to be touched.

I know that I am a guy and maybe this is inappropriate to comment on, but you have to start by loving yourself. Not being happy in your skin can make it harder to be relaxed and content so when the new Mr Right comes along it will not be a knee jerk reaction from you. I went through something like this for a long time and I found several ways to like me again and you know what, I don't think I am that bad now, and the Mrs Right I am married to nowadays was well worth waiting for!!!

xx

Ooooooooo CK, a BRILLIANT well stated topic. I know every BIT of what You speak. Frankly, the very words of emotion and sentiment You used are identical to mine. Wow...Thinking I'll never be touched again; should I shut down, allllllll of that has haunted me for three solid years since CHOSING to start dating again....only to be disappointed in that too. I have not been intimately touched IN 30yrssssss try THAT ONE on for size..Efreakinggads...Ack.



When I'm in a calm, settled head space, I can look at and enjoy what the world has to offer; the love between Young couples, movies to that effect etc....BUT WHEN the longing goes on and on and on and on..and my home life becomes a BATTLE GROUND for survival and peace and money goes away and people run off because I'm just TOO SAD.........When THIS happens then I do certain things to avoid the sobbing lonely pain and fear of having lived for nothing........BY NOT watching romantic movies...No sexual images at all...NOT EVEN MY OWN...I don't watch anything violent, I avoid going where young lovers might be....I switch the TV to "how to" or animal related programs......(Sheesh lol I'm even bothered if the ANIMALS LICK AND MATE each other--can't cope with the thought, it's TOO painful)) I stop listening to sexy or romantic or FUN music..it reminds me of what I'm missing. Too painful...



BUT...............like a poster in here said; DO NOT STONE HARDEN YOUR HEART........NO MATTER WHAT...FEEL, ALWAYS FEEL Your emotions and sensitivities even when painful or incredibly heavy...If You close off Your heart as I did over the last 30, I wouldn't have noticed, probably didn't notice any OTHER EYES on me...I was oblivious and tamped down tight into a hidden little walled off world..

You ought be cautious about whom You desire, Yes. Be sharp about with whom You cast Your lot, Yes...protect Yourself from predators and ne'erdowells but never go cold stone..You'll miss an opportunity as sure as the sun comes up in the East and likely when You LEAST expect it....



Good Luck CK...........ty for posting this ♥

its a very painful feeling i too know this feeling so well...I'm on the darker side however; i was a rebound of a man that was married and leaving his wife; not because of me. (that was long over before I was there). however on his little test drive to a new life....i was broken along the way. I was with him for little over 3 years, I called the wife to apologize...not to ask for forgiveness for i knew i would never get it - I just maybe was being selfish and just wanted to clear my own conscious . I wanted to easy my mind, my heart for any part of any pain this man caused her or even me.

I have not love another since, maybe its because i'm ashamed of myself for falling for this man....and in a sense of punishment because I dont feel like i deserve to be loved after such heartbreaks, knowing in my heart that it was wrong, Im embarrassed even speaking to my priest about it and have only snuck into the church to light an occasional candle for ill friends.

I've tried to justified everything in my head..even thou their marriage had been over for 5 years before i step in...doesnt make it any better.

I long have always longed for someone in my life for so many years....its countless. I dont date, havent been out on a date in 2 years...I'm nearly sickened when a man, comes on to me or trys to touch my skin....

my fear is that i may be ruined for all men. so...to the women that want to judge the other" women...i say...maybe we are already in our own punishments, there is no need to spit at us, no need to hate us...we do a good enough job at it ourselves.