Help Me Please...My husband and I have been married for seven years. We never had thoughts of polygamy until he saw a tv program about it on PBS. It was just us and our two boys 5 and 3. He would bring it up every now and again but i never thought it would come to light that he wanted just that. I cheated on my husband back in 09'. I confessed to it this past July and he has filed for divorce (not final yet). While coping with what I did he and I (so I thought) were getting back together (having sex I would stay over night at our house after he kicked me out). But he later told me he was building a personal life with someone else (an 18 year old girl who is still in high school) and later told me that he wanted her me and our children to live together. He has taken her (is having sex with her and supporting her in our home. I live with his parents trying to wait out his craziness). He has given her a verbal covenant not to leave her as long as she is fair to him and he would be fair to her. He has given her a 'promise ring'. Its crazy!
Our (me, my husband and the girl) religion is Church of Christ (Christians). We believe man is the head and we woman are suppose to be in a submissive position. He is extremely knowledgeable in the bible and has come to the conclusion that the only way he will take me back like GOD took Israel back is that I accept the fact he has another woman/wife (this 18 year old who is still in high school and claims she is willing to sharing him) and we all live together as two wives and one husband. I desperately want my family back, but im not sure like this. It has been so hard. Our sons don't see their dad as much as they should and I'm tired of the arrangement. I hate she is with my husband. I know I created the situation. I'm not sure what to do. I want my family but not her. I don't want to be alone. To him this is my second chance back with him and he claims he will provide me with the same love as she and our kids will be fine. He says he loves us equally (although she has been living with her since Sep 10). He says this will teach me true submission and not allow me to try to be in control or in charge. I will be second wife not first. He's 29 years old, Im 30 and she is 18.
I love my husband and want to make this right because I have ruined our family unit, but Im not sure this is the answer. Any comments is welcomed. I havent decided to do anything. Lately I have been saying I just want to be alone. He says im being selfish and I am not growing as a christian submissive wife that I honestly want to be. Help me please...
moore1980 26-30, F 18 Responses 1 Jan 4, 2011