Plural Marriage Is Definitely For Me.

I am a Latter-day Saint who desperately wants to practice polygamy. I'm a single woman, 21 years old, living in a community where mormons are the minority. I pray for the Church to bring it back every day. I am not FLDS, but honestly I have considered converting. But the problem is that it would be just to practice the Principle, not because I think their church is true. I really do believe the mainstream Mormon Church is true but I don't understand why we don't practice polygamy and I long for it so badly. I am also considering practicing it in secret and still attending Church. I know this would be dishonest so I really don't know if I would actually do that.

I'm on this website because I want to make friends with others who practice it or want to practice it. FLDS, Mormons in secret, Muslim, nonreligious, whoever! I am so fascinated with the Principle and would love to connect with you and learn your story.

Also, here is my blog:

It explains my situation more fully, and how I came to believe what I do. You can find my email on my profile there, and feel free to email me there, or on here as well.

pluraljoy pluraljoy
18-21, F
26 Responses Apr 30, 2009

Hi my wife and I are looking for a sister wife. We live out in Oklahoma. We are not Mormon but are still Christians. We are both 25. If you or anyone on here is interested email me at I'm Chris btw

I have log wanted a plural family and my wife is warming to the Idea.

My wife and I are not LDS, but maybe we can share some thoughts with you. One suggestion I do have is that at 21 you you really need to be patient and take your time.

By watching a show like Big Love or Sister Wives doesn't mean that you are cut out for this kind of lifestyle. It may pique your interest but its a hard way to live. Jealousy is something we all happen to experience, now times that by several. I am a member of the LDS and yes they may frown upon polygamy but the numbers leaning towards a plural marriage is growing. You do not not have to prescribe to FLDS, as a matter of fact, I am not interested in most of their fundamentalism but I believe in polygamy. I was 2nd wife to my late husband and unfortunately deported back to Australia after his passing. I have missed so dreadfully my sister-wives & life .. I can't find kindred here so if any knows of a community here then please let me know x

The concept of Polyamory can be similar, look up Polyfidelity. Contact me if you need any help finding likeminded people in your area. I am Australian too btw. :-)

just rumors now, ... but we don't practice polygamy because thousands of years ago some roman emperor declared that the common man should only marry one woman, no more.

(notice that emperor didn't give himself the same limit)

Close, in the 1500's the Roman Catholic church "created" the current bible and dictated to all that they must follow their rules. They had a policy of keeping the peasants illiterate and therefore under the church's influence because they believed (had been led to believe) that to gain Salvation they must do so.
Cut to modern times and with literacy almost universal (it's a shame I have to say almost) people are able to choose for themselves how they live their lives thus leading to these sorts of conversations.

the current bible, ... it's beginnings were founded around 1700 years ago.
it was the roman emporer at the time who conceded on public outcry that polygamy should end, this was by a guy who declared war on christians.

so the anti-polygamy stance was not christian at all.
and jesus lived and walked and talked in a time (hundreds of years earlier) when polygamy was the norm

there are several areas in the bible that mention about men having more than one 'wife', places that mention it's acceptable to be sleeping with more than one woman (slaves in addition to your wife(s))

to marry your brothers wife if he shall die, ... and if you already had a wife before your brother died, ... now you had 2 wives. ...

this stuff has nothing to do with the bible, it only has to do with people trying to enforce their morals and insecurities about the ways to live upon other people, ... dictators have done that through history, ... and dictators that live today continue to do the same thing.

Hi Flear, yep, we are on the same page there, the only distinction I was making was the original Bible was basically the Torah (what we know as the Old Testament, the modern Bible (perhaps I should have worded it that way instead) originated around the 1500's.
The Old Testament makes mention a number of times about men having multiple wives and the only time this is criticised is in reference to "the King shall not have too many wives" Deut 17:17. There is also a reference in Timothy and Titus that "church leaders shall be husband to only one wife". This is the reference everyone looks to to justify Monogamy. Many just see it on face value to refer to church leaders only, this is to ensure they have support to do their good work but no other external distractions on their time.

I find myself in the same situation. I was raised in a single family home but there was a lot of abuse....violence, drugs, alcohol, I was in and out of state homes, and I have always felt so out of place, never happy, never with a full feeling.

I am 29, not exactly young anymore, but when I see these families, and their love, and that God is truly well and alive in them and their community, I almost faint from the warmth it gives me.

I can truly say in my heart I know this is where God wants me.

But I live in an area where this is not common practice. Those who do practice aren't exactly open and advertising for lack of better terminology.

I hope and prayers to you! I hope you have many blessings .

Hello,<br />
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My name is Arun (pronounced Aaron) and I am new to this site, but am very keen on practising polygamy. I am interested in learning more about the FLDS and becoming a member and would like advis on how to practice polygamy effectively so I can share my soul with several women. I respect women more than men and I feel the need to share my love with multiple partners and sisterwives. I really respect the people that I have met that are associated with FLDS and salute them for their beliefs. THanks for your input and advice

I am 22, and originally raised in a catholic environment. I have been questioning my faith recently and polygamy seems like such a natural thing to practice. It has occurred since the beginning of written language, so why shouldn't it be legal? I feel like I have a lot of love to share, I just don't know where to start?

send me an email and I steer you in the right direction.

I am looking for my first sister wife let me know if you are seriously interested. : )

MY husbandand i have been discussing bringing another women in and both agree. But how and where do you meet some one who is willing to be a sister wife? Please

My husband and I are not members of any church but we believe in the fundamental principals of having a loving family and being good people. We very much want to open our hearts and home to a "sister" wife. She would be married to both of us and there would not be any status difference between any members of the marriage. <br />
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However, We are young and live in a community where this may be frowned upon. So, for now, we continue our search discretely. <br />
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I am 25 and in my graduate studies at a local college and my husband, who is 27, is in a profession that requires him to leave for long periods of time. We have a 4 year old daughter together. I want so much to have female companionship and someone who can keep our spirits up when he is away. I really want to find a woman who is BOTH my sister and my wife. <br />
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I am not jealous and have no problem with the idea of my husband being with someone that I would love just as much as he does. Ideally, since I am bisexual, she would be in love with both of us equally as well. <br />
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It would seems as though there are many people looking for thier addition and not enough single woman who are willing or interested in entering into an already established marriage. <br />
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Is anyone else finding this extremely difficult? It sort of feels like dating, but no one is single anymore...

Look up Polyamory, and search for an interest group in your area.

My husband and I are also looking for a sister wife. We are both Christians and were not raised in this lifestyle but came into it on our own. I would love to get to know other women of like minds and see if it leads to a sister wife relationship down the road. You can message me here if you are interested and we will talk more! :)

Do older women ever become a sisterwife? Like 55 or older?

of course they do.

WOW some very good dialog on this subject, i happen to bieve is ok.

HI what is big love is it a show has anyone watched sisterwicves on tlc i am not sure if i would want t obe in a polgamist relationship but i am also young and it would be easier to have more wives but hey i might want t odotn know still thinking i guess i polycurious lol

I live in Australia and I too am leanning toward poly marriage.The are so many bennifits.<br /> Please feel free to e-mail me.

I don't think you'll find an endorsement for polygamy (or any other specific type of marriage or partnership) in "canonical" Biblical literature. It simply isn't there. All laws on marriage come from human beings, not God. They certainly might be *inspired* by God, but there's nothing specific written down about it. In the Book of Mormon, I believe in Doctrines, there is a section dealing with extra wives beyond the "normal" one... wherein it says IF you can take care of them and IF you love them and IF you feel a true heavenly call then you may ASK if the woman wants to join the family. I'd have to look it up, though. Not my religion. :)<br />
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As to my own religion, it's silent on who or how many should be married. My gods simply don't care, provided we're all good to one another. :)

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I've been watching Big love and became curious about LDS so I searched the web. I have found info about what plural marriage and the principle is, the definition but no where have I have info about why polygamy is encouraged by some mormons.<br />
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I am very liberal. Eaven though I don't personally believe in polygamy I believe that everyone should have the right to choose the lifestyle they wish to.<br />
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I can understand the practical aspect and necessity of polygamy in some circumstances. Like for example if a woman would become a widow in a society where women can't provide for themselves Or if there would be a lack of men because of war for example.<br />
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But I haven't found any real logical argument for polygamy under normal circumstances. Why would it be a wish or requirement of God?<br />
To me it seems just that it would cause trouble if it were widely practiced. There would be a shortage of available woman for the men to marry. That would lead to unhappy lonelyness for the left over men. Wouldn't God have created a suplus of women if this was his plan? Not to talk about jealousy and problems for the men to support multiple wifes and more children.<br />
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From the outside it seems to me that religion is used just an excuse for men to be promiscuous. Not that it's wrong but I don't think they should justify that by God.<br />
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Correct me if I'm wrong. What is the reason to why God is pro polygamy?

4ureyes, you say that the "... majority of people will choose monogamous marriages because it is easier to maintain a stable relationship in such arrangements." I disagree! :)<br />
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I think that any relationship requires dedication, communication, honesty, and love. Whether you have two or eight people matters not one bit. Is there a major difference between a poly family with two kids and five adults, and a "normal" family with two adults and five kids? The complexity of internal relationships is exactly the same, although of course sexual tensions are different. <br />
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Every family is slightly different from every other. I don't think you can say "all monogamous" or "all poly" families *anything*. :)

I suspect we use the term "sisterwife" because it's one that people have come to know through popular television and shows like Big Love. It's convenient and doesn't require a lot of explanation. :)<br />
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For me, the term refers to a wife (well, not wife because we're not legally married... can't be - laws don't allow for it!) who isn't involved with other wives. I'm bi but the other two women in our family are not... we're sisters, not wives to each other, if that makes sense. That's just my take on it, but I suspect my family would tend to agree. :)<br />
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Good luck to you. Be aware, as others have said, that the LDS church is very down on polygamy. You run the risk of being excommunicated from your church. Only you can decide whether you find that acceptable. I would seriously ask yourself, what's more important? If the church is that important to you, then perhaps you need to avoid a relationship with another woman, even though it may cause you some personal grief. Better to live with the minor grief of what "might have been" than be excommunicated from a church that means so much to you! <br />
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On the other hand, if the church is not as important as your relationship to God, then do what you feel is right. :) Good luck!

CVKodiak<br />
Regarding the term sister-wife, it means that the wives are "like" sisters but they are also the wife to a husband. In some households the wife is THE BOSS. Many times in the past it was THE MAN. Today it is a little more equal. Polygyny has many different power or authority structures. Normally the man is the HOH. Sometimes the are truly democratic in their decisions. But the term sister-wives are normally used no matter what. Just like husband and wife (even when the wife runs the show.)

Well, I am LDS too. And we are trying to find a sister-wife. You just happen to be way too young for us. So I am not trying to woo you. In fact I have been a Bishop, have on the high council etc, and worked in the temple etc. But I came to the conclusion that Celestial marriage really means plural marriage as preached by the early church. The church will never go back to polygamy. You need to accept that fact. You can cover it up and continue attending. There are ways to do it. If you need more info etc then contact me and I will steer you in the right direction. poly9876 at gmail dot com

You seem to have a sweet and genuine disposition. Hope you find what you are seeking.

I truly believe that polygamy is Biblical, let's be honest most of the Bible is filled with polygamous marriages. <br />
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Sharing the love of God and my husband, growing in faith and being close to a sisterwife is a relationship I long to have. My marriage is loving, affectionate and I am very happy. It angers me that people think there must be something wrong if you are looking for another wife to join the family. <br />
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I don't believe people who aren't truly happy should be looking for another spouse to join the family. I pray for the day when God will bless us with the right person to join our family.<br />
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When the time comes I will celebrate the love of my husband and my sisterwife, I will also celebrate the love I have for her as well. We want to find someone who will be with us for all eterenity, tht is important to us. <br />
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We are just normal everyday Christians, yet people think we must be religious zealots or fanatics... Or that we are some sort of criminals. Let me make this clear, abuse will never be a part of our home. We don't use government programs like welfare and we support ourselves and are RESPONSIBLE citizens. <br />
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How in a world, full of people having casual sex and half of all children born last year to unwed mothers, people can decide to throw stones at those in committed loving relationships... I do not know! The people I know who are polygamous are raising children to be responsible, respectful Christians. We should be stregthening the family in our society, instead we promote sex and sin. It's so sad.<br />
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We are looking for one marriage (together with our sisterwife) and one family. We both pray for the day that our marriage is blessed with a sisterwife.

Good for you! Be proud of what you want. Living with my husband and my Sisterwife lets me live with both my best friends. We have 7 kids between us and our home is very Christian and happy. Don't give up. If you feel this is for you keep looking.

I am ready to help you to understand, if you would like

My situation is somewhat similar. I'm mormon, living in Utah. I go to church every Sunday, served a full-time mission in France got married in the temple. I had absolutly no interest in polygamy until sometime after I got married. I think it started after we had our first kid. The idea of having another woman in the house to help my wife was appealing.

just curious, as a woman, why do you want to be a polygamist? I would never be able to share my husband with other women...