The Life of a Woman With 2 Hubbies
I got several readers for my "What's Cool About Polygamy" (see below) One lady shared her desire for having two husbands who are brothers. Here's my thought on it:
I think there are certain prerequisites that render this scenario possible in our current lifestyle. We live within a nuclear family. So, assuming that Mrs. Polygamous would have either 2 houses next to the other or two apartments or she could have an apartment with two rooms for each husband to have their privacy. Considering most women do the cooking in a household (though in the West, many women do the driving to the supermarket, shopping, cooking, picking kids up and cleaning afterwards), let's just consider she'd have to stay in one house in order to be able to maintain the upkeep of her two-husbands household. (We could make the husbands be the homemakers as well, but that would be two revolutions in one, right?)
So, in order for her to demand sex from each husband when she wants it, she'd have to be more muscular than the average woman. This is important so that she wouldn't be raped into sex by either or both of the men - as men are usually the one in the position as rapist - due to their "superiority" in terms of physical strength, for the most part. However, she could still play the "traditional" temptress role of a woman whenever she demands some loving from either of the man. She has to be extra careful though not to pass in front of the brother of husband #1 as this will result in both of them coming, and therefore she will never have the private time that she deserves with each one.
In order to keep these two men obedient and faithful to her, they must be from a rather unstable stock - both mentally and financially. They must have some kind of desperate need for Mrs. Polygamous' financial support and emotional support. They must not have the familiar "male competitive spirit" otherwise, they will be very upset to be named in the family documents or will for instance, as the husband #2. Mrs. Polygamous would have to monitor their spending money to ensure that they don't get extra services anywhere. Perhaps they could be made to do housework and mind the children.
Yes...the children! Mrs. Polygamous would have trouble keeping track of which children belong to which father. Lucky for her, she has opted for brothers for her two husbands, so they would easily have the same last names or tribal names. And assuming similar genes, they would look just like they are from one man. Of course, with two unrelated men as their father - the men will always wonder about their true offsprings. We know from science that men are not emotionally attached to children to begin with, when compared to the majority of women. This will be a problem as far as the relationship between father and child is concerned. Perhaps, the men would not develop such loving relationship with children that they are not sure about their origin. This is true for most men. Perhaps, Mrs. Polygamous can just send the children to her parents for appropriate love and care. And she can continue with her marital bliss.
(Compare this to some ancient pagan style in which the women of the society is free to go bed-hopping into any household in her "town". I just can't imagine my husband coming home, saying "You're going to the postman's house tonight, honey! I want his wife for the 5th time this week...that woman's irresistable!!"
Again, human can choose what they desire, but the children and the next generation will have mixed up and confused identity - which actually is happening in many of today's societies.)
All Praise be to God for sending moral codes through His prophets and sages throughout the century. We are indebted to Noah, Moses, Siddharta Buddha, Confucious, Zoroaster, David, Jesus and Muhammad peace be on the Lovers of God.