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My Husband Wants to Bring His Girlfriend Into Our Home
Sep 25th, 2007
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hree months ago I was told by my husband that he was in love with another woman. I spent two weeks confused and hurt that I couldnt be enough of what he wanted. Also this woman was at one point a friend of mine, but severed communication because she felt it would be "wierd" to be friends with my while she was with my husband.
Things since then have changed. I am now somewhat ok with his decision, my reasoning that I have my husband home still and my children have their father. He still loves me, he just loves another woman as well. I get some really bad reactions from people about my decision to stick with him. The reason I have stayed however is that this isnt affecting us in a negative way. In fact we have a somewhat better realtionship.
He has somewhat jokingly but also somewhat seriously suggested several times that he thinks she should move in with us and we could all live together. My only problem with this? I am afraid of bieng the one left out, I dont want to see him give her more affection or love than he does me.
What I want to do is get some feed back from others who have been in a marraige like this or those who are in one. I want to know the pros and cons, and anything else.
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  | Posted Oct 14th, 2007 at 7:58AM I think this is an excellent theory. It sounds so good on the face of it. But....I don't know anyone in your situation who has pulled it off long term. You know his wants and desires in this. Do you know hers? You need to sit down with her and make sure that you two are exactly on the same sheet of music here. If you're not, you need to be able to communicate to get to that point. If you can't have open, honest and CASUAL talks like that with her and your husband then this isn't going to work.   |
 | Posted Oct 15th, 2007 at 2:47AM My wife and I had our regular ********* partner live with us for close to four years. NOT THE SAME as your situation. Your hubby and your former ex-friend went behind you back. Don't trust those ******** for a millesecond, My suggested solution - First make sure the death of the mistress looks like an accident. The evidence needs to point at the hubby. Castrate the cheating bastard only because you need him to act as the life support system for his wallet to support you and the kids. Use the evidence to insure his cooperation. Get a stupid young lover to move in with you and flaunt him in the face of your ******* spouse exactly like he did to you. Just call me the voice of reason and responsibility. |
 | Posted Nov 5th, 2007 at 2:11PM I think it could work out beautifuly if your man is man enough to take care of both of you and treat you good. I know tons of people who have lived that way for years with out problems. |
 | Posted Nov 21st, 2007 at 6:53PM your man has already proven his lack of character by going behind your back- don't allow his sexual and fickle emotional desires make the situation worse-when someone wants something, they will SAY anything to get what they want, especially a horny man who wants to convince his reluctant wife to allow him to have his "fresh piece" live with them-it's any pubescent boy's fantasy...multiple partners-maybe it could work with two mature adults who totally love and respect each other and are COMPLETELY open and honest with each other-your husband has been neither open nor honest nor sensitive to your needs-he should have gotten your permission (if you would give it, otherwise he should not have had a relationship with her) before he ever did ANYTHING with her-it's the only honorable way +2 nods |
 | Posted Jan 3rd, 2008 at 8:12PM This is not an example of a poly relationship. The husband was wrong, and this just isn't how healthy poly relationships work. +2 nods |
 | Posted Jan 19th, 2008 at 12:29PM follow your heart. people say things based on their personal pain. I am about to tell my husband to take on the woman he had an affair with and produced two children with- I don't want her living with us, I plan to split the time. |
 | Posted Feb 10th, 2008 at 2:05PM if he fell in love with the other women is that mean he would lave you for her. |
| Posted Feb 19th, 2008 at 10:38PM I'm sorry for your pain. I know this whole thing is quite shocking. It's best to take stock of where you are and what you want. I found www.my2wives.com to be VERY helpful. Just be patient, this is not a race and making decisions while you are very emotional will wind up getting you hurt. I hope everythingworks out for you. Dave |
 | Posted Feb 29th, 2008 at 12:16PM Lucky you. you are in a relationship where you husband isn't a liar and not afraid to share his feeling and desires with you. embrace that move her in and treat her like a sister. whats the big deal. you share the love of your children with this man you can share his love with a women. his heart is big enough. its not your place to demand or require anything so just accept your husband desire and go from there... YOU WILL BE VERY HAPPY... your so lucky! I am really jealous... |
 | Posted Apr 14th, 2008 at 3:01PM it would be different if he told you about it and talked with you about it from the begining. like a normal poly relationship where it is discussed between the couple first. |
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