Asked To Be A Dominant

Hi, My ex-boyfriend and I were together for a year and a half. The sex was always great, very loving and emotional, but I always felt like something was missing. He wouldn't get very aggressive with me, even after hinting that's what I wanted a few times. We broke up about 6 months ago but are still close, very attracted to each other sexually and we both admit we are still love each other (he's in the military a few hours away with a job that makes it difficult to have the relationship he wants). Last week he confided in me that he has been interested in being a submissive partner for a long time. He has never told anyone else so this is a big thing for him and he was understandably scared to tell me. That's what was missing from our relationship, I never took charge. The thought of serving me, pleasuring me, and doing what I ask turns him on. Since then I have been reading a lot online about femdom relationships and talking to him a lot about everything I've been learning and thinking about. As much as it turns him on, its turning me on now too. I am a teacher so I'm used to being in charge of people, but this is something completely new to me in a sexual relationship. I am having a hard time finding the line between being lovingly dominant and being a mean dominant. A lot of the stuff I am reading online sounds very degrading, mean and selfish. I am doing this as much for him as I am for me. I'm wondering if anyone has any advice on how to be a loving beginning dominant, while still fulfilling his need to have me in control in the bedroom. Thanks!
tinkerbell426 tinkerbell426
22-25, F
Aug 3, 2010