Ending a D/s Relationship
Is a dominant still a dominant if they cannot offer honesty and respect to a submissive - if the very basis of this lifestyle is meant to be trust, respect and honesty then isn't that something that both a Dom and sub should expect at all times....isn't it the very least that any human being deserves.
I have come to the unfortunate conclusion that how a Dom ends a relationship says more about him as both a Dom and as a man than anything else ever could. So many Doms think that ending a D/s relationship is the same as ending a vanilla relationship - they understand little about the psychology of submission. Whatever stage a relationship gets to if there has been any degree of submission then the sub has given a part of herself to him and to just walk away and lie about your reasons for ending the relationship is nothing short of abandonment.
No matter what a Dom says about why a relationship ends - whatever lie he tells himself will ease the pain for the sub - she will assume all of the blame...it is the nature of a submissive. Her aim has been to please her Dom - the fact that he has left her means, to her mind, that she has failed in some way - and she will question everything about herself in an effort to figure out what it was that caused her to fail. Very often if she has insecurities - however unfounded - she will assume that it is one of those flaws that have caused the ending....it reinforces all of her insecurities....if a sub was good enough to call his at any stage then a Dom should not in one fell swoop discard her and cause her to question everything about herself - perhaps even her ability to submit.