Too Long And Feeling Useless.

I have been unemployed for the last 3 years. When I was working I worked hard, but I just didn't "fit in" with my co-workers I guess. So when the layoffs started I was one of the first to go. I had to move back home and live with my parents because I couldn't afford to sustain myself any longer. The first few months I would apply every day for a job. And rejection was all I found around every corner. Then it became every week I would apply, and rejection still. The last year or so I havn't even bothered. I feel like I'm just not worth anything to a company anymore. I worked so hard to get where I was and I feel like life just shoved my face in the ground for the effort. Now I sit at home all day, and the only times I get outside is when I drive my mother to doctor appointments or grocery shopping. I have brief moments where I will look at the wanted ads in the paper. sometimes I will even call a number, but usually I get some sort of rejection on the phone before I even get an interview.
Poe42 Poe42
26-30, M
10 Responses Jul 30, 2011

You sound lazy, you just stay home all day and the maximum amount of effort you apply to search for jobs is by searching advertisements in the newspapers, there are two issues with this, it's a limited posting of jobs and secondly you are competing with a far higher amount of applicants.

Have you tried networking, going to the chamber of commerce, moving to a county or city with low unemployment? Regardless if the unemployment rate was 5 percent or 10 percent, I have never had a difficulty finding a job and finding opportunity for myself. I became very sick, lost my job and as result because I was unaware of what caused my sickness at this time my reputation was negatively effected. I change my life, I start an research project it leads to potential investment but then I get sick and that doesn't work. Limited work-history, lack of references, I easily find a job because I suppose unlike you I have social skills and now I have been hired full-time.

The problem with the unemployed is although they are a unit of a statistic that reflects structural economic changes, the individual that compromises that unit is often the least skilled, the least intelligent, the laziest and the least capable individuals and therefore the most likely to become unemployed and stay unemployed.

Although I was working I went through a long period of time where I felt I lost my identity. I had no passion or interests of my own. Check out my blog.

I have been unemployed for three years as well, except for some temp jobs and nonprofit work in-between. Upon graduation, I had more work experience than others in my year, but I had trouble finding a career job or any employment from the start. I managed to live very frugally on my own for a bit. Now I am back in my parents house, trying not to be a bother. I do think it is bad luck, more than anything. Life has become less fair than it was for my parents. I am so dissatisfied right now.

I feel better. Reading that others are going thru the same thing not because of the misery but knowing it's not I that have the problem it's just the economic situation.

I am in the same boat. You aren't the only one who feels this way, man. Keep your head up....

I was unemployed right after graduation for about a year or so. Then I went back to work earning $10.00 an hour at the same job I had since high school. Later I was hired as an ESL instructor at an University but only worked 9 hours a week for $15.00 per hour. I had to work on a contract basis of six weeks. Last September i didn't get the call back. I was depressed. Then I got hired at the current place I work in, now i should feel happy, but I'm not. I work with scientists that treat me like their little idiot that knows nothing, or "that little **** up" walking around. I'm their scapegoat. It is very depressing to come to work. 1 1/2 in commute time back and forth, I feel worthless like you =[

I understand how you feel completely. In America, if you don't have a job you just feel completely worthless. I hate that. I have been unemployed for 1 year and it is dragging me down hard. I try to start each day with a positive outlook, but that is almost impossible. I feel lonely being at home by myself all of the time and I don't have much money to go out with my friends either. I hate it! I feel for you!

This is a good point. Volunteer work is frustrating if you think about the money you are not earning, but just getting out and being productive and socializing with people in a work setting can do a lot to boost your self worth and energy. It is also a good way to build a resume.

it can help some

I am sorry to hear about your plight <br />
I have been unemployed for more than 10 years and have found that doing volunteer work has helped me to stay away from the depressive state that isolation brings and to ward off rejection .I have<br />
found that being able to volunteer and give something of myself to others has been more rewarding than a paid job

that's great to hear

Thank you - thank you - thank you to all of you! I feel 20 years younger and 20 lbs lighter just by reading that I am not alone!