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Hating Being Unemployed

 I have been unemployed now for almost 8 months. It's getting to the point where there are no jobs for me to apply for. I am networking, I am on temps lists and I am looking on job boards daily. There doesn't seem to be any work. I missed out on 3 positions this week in my own industry and I didn't even get an interview. It's hard when I'm grocery shopping and I end up putting everything back on the shelf. I'm eating very badly just to save money but my health is suffering. I've never experienced this before. I have a mortgage as well and the money is running out. I've worked out how to have dinner for $2 it's very scary.

my friends seem to not care, perhaps because they don't want to know. the only people I discuss my problems with are my family, but I get the feeling they are sick of hearing the negative side. i'm not even getting temp jobs. I'm too proud to ask family for money but I might have to otherwise I risk losing my home. I don't have enough money to go out with friends and this is starting to cause problems in my social life. I don't eat out much and I don't drink, I haven't seen a movie in months and I don't remember the last time I had a night out. How sad.

I'm so overwhelmed I cry every day and night and I just don't seem to be able to see a positive solution to all of this. I had to cancel my gym membership today. I get enough exercise walkiing anyhow, so I probably don;t need it. I found this website as I googled "I just want to scream". I do. I think I'll feel much better when I do. but I can't. yesterday after a rejection, I actually felt like I was going to throw up. I've never felt that before.

there are days when I stay in pj's all day and I may not leave the house for a couple of days. I really couldn't be bothered anymore. I worked for a month and it was great, but when I finished that it was like being retrenched all over again. I am trying to conserve energy to cut my electricity bill but the weather is getting colder now and it's really hard. When I have really bad days I am grateful that I still have a warm roof over my head as I know that others have not been so lucky. I still have a family that will support me no matter what and at the moment I still have my health.

Thanks for listening to me vent.

Metrogirl76 Metrogirl76 31-35, F 22 Responses Apr 29, 2009

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I found a great group that you can network with. Let me know if you'd like more info.

Wow! I am sorry. I've been out of work for 115 days and can't even imagine being out that long. I won't make it that long. I'm at my breaking point now! i can not handle this.everyone tells me it's going to work out. I'm having a hard time not telling people what i think of that response. I haven't been out of work since 1980. I have had enough! I NEED A JOB!!!!!!!

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I feel you I really do. I was unemployed for ages and it seemed like the only jobs available were in care and it still does :-S anyways, I applied for a job in care and I have neve looked back. I work wih you g autistic adults now and it the most interesting and exciting an sometimes dangerous :-S job I've ever had and now I'd like to make a career out of it. Good luck!!

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I have been unemployed for 2 years - i was a senior non-commisoned officer in the military and i cant find or get a job. I know what you mean about surviving - i have like $10 a month for gasoline and i only spend $100 a month for food it includes a lot of peanut butter, potatoes, and bologna. <br />
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Hang in there - you may have to move into something cheaper - i dunno - dont ignore any possibilities

I've been unemployed for 2 years now and it seems that my education and experience are not helping at all. All I can do is to keep trying until I land something.

I feel for all of you who are unemployed. I have been so myself. What I long fof most is the social contact which I have lost. NO friends, workmates and even some family members keep their distance. I hope thing will improve and I'm still looking for a permenent job. Hope things work out in the future.

God Good I start work on Monday. Can't freaking believe it. It is six hours away but I have some money coming in. I is only till Jan. But atleast the holidays will not be a bleak as they were last year.

I was unemployed for about 8 months. I have a college degree and a masters degree. I found a job a few months ago building scaffolds, then I got a construction job but I am afraid that I am about to be laid off again. We almost lost our house and exhausted our savings. I am scared to death about being unemployed again.

I go 1 better or badder Ive bin out 4 nearly 8 yrs.<br />
I used 2 work 4 the BBC (Yeh! the good ole Auntie) until I woz made redundant.<br />
25 yrs of solid employment just taking it 4 granted that I hadda job.<br />
U c after I left the BBC I bcame a carer 4 my elderly parents who were bcoming unwell.<br />
I woz recieving a double lot of carers allowance 4 both of them then my father died & so I woz then just caring 4 my mother who died 6 months later so then I obviously lost the carers allowance & had 2 start looking 4 work which since that time has not bin easy. I am with various agencies & have applied 4 several jobs but 2 no avail aswell as in'n'out of job centres claiming benefits which can b so degrading wen I think of my BBC days not having 2 worry being in full time employment.<br />
Sounds as though Ive bin poncing & being snooty but I can assure u I dont mean 2 b.<br />
I feel downtrodden.

I'm unemployed and love it. Was working for a bit part time and am in a different country where it's nice and warm. Who needs a job when you can be a beach bum?! Whn the money runs out I'll be in trouble, but my ticket back home is already bought. Life is too precious to spend at work and work is overrated! As long as you're still eating you don't need a job, just sell all the useless stuff including car and home until you're down to just the clothes on your body! That's freedom! Now make ten dollars a day by doing something you love and voila; life is perfect!

I agree with you! But then again its quite scary! I am actually quite scared of going back to work even though I need the income. I can't stand having to ask someone when to go to the bathroom, what time I can leave, and when I can go to lunch. Then sitting in traffic for hours or spending time in a subway...not my idea of freedom at all. I think Capitalism needs to just go away. In my mind, a job is legal slavery. I have to take deep breaths every time I apply for a job. I think I get anxiety just doing that on top of the fact that Im not working. I wish I could be on the beach right now and eating fresh fruits from the trees without a care in the world.In some ways I feel free, but then again not being able to afford the minimum basics doesn't make me feel too free either. *sigh* this is a tough one!

If you are still needing help, I think I can help you. I know how you feel, so I want to help you move past this and get back on track. Please contact me.

Congratulations Metro girl!

hi all its good to here from others in the same boat, u think 5 months is bad try 7 years thats how long i have been, i had a few jobs in there causual and stuff but its hard, i guess im just trying to hard putting in for loads is a lot of worki, and i m only 25,

I managed to find work finally. I started just over a month ago with a great company, in a great new role for me and I'm enjoying it so far. Good luck to those still looking!

I feel your pain and judging by your ID and pic, I'm surprised you're not an unemployed New Yorker. <br />
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I've been out of a job for over 3 months now and I'm at the point that I just want to make sure everything is paid before my unemployment stops. It's really hard to stay upbeat.<br />
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I'm so glad that I found this site. NOBODY, friends, family, and expecially employers want to hear your sobstories. And it sucks, because the less people want to listen, the more insane and depressed you become. I always get "Stay Positive". OK, sure. You, too, since you have a job in the same field as me, but won't throw me a bone. OK- I'm done being bitter!<br />
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I guess we should all try to pump up each other, since we know where we're all coming from. I'm practicing what I'm preaching, and if it works I'll let you know.<br />
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1. Make a couple resumes- One that caters to what you want to do and a couple that show other skill sets in case you have to change careers<br />
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2. If necessary, do the same for your portfolios. Marketing, Arts, and even some business, it's better to have portfolios that cater specifically to the job you are interviewing for.<br />
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3. Stay positive- employers can see your discouraged from a mile away. Better said than done as I highlighted above. This is the hardest one for me, but I'm sure that there is still some passion left in all of us.<br />
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4. Enjoy your time off! I took my kids out of daycare and got a zoo pass. I'm out in the sun every day being newly inspired by things that I wouldn't have bothered to look at otherwise.

I have been unemployed for five months now. I am college educated and have a little experience, but nothing substantial. Mostly administrative stuff. I am in my thirties. I don't think employers are interested in me as I am too old. Why should they bother with someone like me when they can get a fresh graduate for less money? I am sick of looking for work. In the five months I have been sending out resumes I only got one interview. I get rejected on a daily basis and I can't stand it anymore.

I have been unemployed for five months now. I am college educated and have a little experience, but nothing substantial. Mostly administrative stuff. I am in my thirties. I don't think employers are interested in me as I am too old. Why should they bother with someone like me when they can get a fresh graduate for less money? I am sick of looking for work. In the five months I have been sending out resumes I only got one interview. I get rejected on a daily basis and I can't stand it anymore.

I have been unemployed for five months now. I am college educated and have a little experience, but nothing substantial. Mostly administrative stuff. I am in my thirties. I don't think employers are interested in me as I am too old. Why should they bother with someone like me when they can get a fresh graduate for less money? I am sick of looking for work. In the five months I have been sending out resumes I only got one interview. I get rejected on a daily basis and I can't stand it anymore.

Thanks Troubleshooter! Actually I was on LinkedIn before I got retrenched but it hasn't done anything for me. I'm still hanging in there, I have set up an agency interview for tomorrow in the hope that I get an interview with this new company I've just applied with. Fingers crossed!

it's funny you say that CaptainMac because I really am appreciating this time to myself. I sleep in, I do what I want when I want and I recently became an aunty for the first time, so I spend as much time as I can with my niece :)