Sticks Or Real Women?

In a previous time, women with actual bodies were considered beautiful. In other cultures today, they are still considered beautiful. Why do we in America and western countries think we need to be skinny to be beautiful? It's not healthy either. Just because you are thin doesn't mean you are fit. I have meat on my bones in all the right places and can run 5k in 30 min. My friend who looks like a stick can't keep up with me. And really, I've known some physically thin, beautiful women who are just horrible people. That certainly doesn't make them likeable, much less beautiful.

Nope, I'll keep my curves.
childofweakness childofweakness 36-40, F 6 Responses May 17, 2011

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You seem to be happy and healthy why change?I say keep your curves.

toned and well proportioned are outward signs of a healthy body, along with skins tone, sparkling eyes and a willingness to smile. I have never been attracted to the "runway model" type and think most of those you see on tv and in print adds. I met Cheryl Tiegs in person and she was not a "pencil", while she was somewhat thin, she had shoulders, breast and hips and her legs were beautifully shaped with some meat on them, not sticks at all. <br />
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many years ago I had a girlfriend that was told she was too heavy to model. At 20 years old, she was 5'9" and 150 lbs, but had a 22" waist, large firms breast and legs to die for and not a thing to be improved upon or changed. she was a track athlete and swimmer with body fat under 10%. The agency never put her on a scale and thought she weighed 125 (they told her) and that she needed to loose at least 10 lbs. She went on to a ten year career of photo modeling, appearing in swim suits, lingere and sports wear for magazines, department stores and catalogs. <br />
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If you love your shape, don't worry about what others say, find new friends.<br />
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It should be about healthy, not skinny. DOn't you hate how magazines and tv shows celebrate the skinny on one page and then lament the body dismorphic attitude we show on the next? I will continue to celebrate the healthy rather than the skinny. I am one man who will . . . probably make no difference whatsoever. But I will do it anyway.

I agree with you and also, u are lucky that u are in America where most people prefer the ***, where im from, you not only expected to be skinny but also have a flat bum. One of the reasons that made me grow up hating my perky *** because its not considered beautiful. I used to hide it under everything that i wear until i realised that in America and western countries its considered beautiful. Its what other women desire and what they have to work hard for.

There's a whole host of reasons, most of which I don't understand. Yes, I blame "Playboy" and fashion magazines as groups that perpetuate unhealthy body images of women. My wife says that Marilyn Monroe would be considered "overweight" as a model today. I defer to her on that.<br />
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But.. men and women have real preferences in body type. Some women like bald men, some like bodybuilders, some like "a little padding", some like a beard, some like a six pack. "Tall, dark, and handsome" is the equivalent of 36-36-36 in many respects. Everyone has a favorite "body type". If my wife asked me to point out 15 women whom I think are beautiful I'd point out 15 women with similar fr<x>ames/bodies to hers. That's just how I'm wired (or have been programmed, I guess).<br />
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Lastly- and here is the REALLY important thing.... I think that 95% of what makes a person attractive is between their ears.

I would have to agree. The fashion industry idealizes anorexic women, and a lot of the rest of pop culture follows suit. Meanwhile, I think it's a bit of an "open secret" that men find women with some meat on their bones more attractive. The new book "A Billion Wicked Thoughts" involved a meta-analysis of people's online **** searches and found that men search for "plump" women far more often than "skinny" ones.