I Am Dating a Married Man
I met this man when I was sixteen working at an internship in NYC. He worked there. At first I thought I really had no chance with this guy because I was sixteen and in all the gossip going around the office as well as with the other interns this guy was a player. A mean one. He started coming by my desk everyday pretending he had something to do for me or teasing me about the menial jobs they'd given me. As the summer progressed I got comfortable wearing skirts and heels to work everyday. He came by one day making a joke " look at you with your corporate look on" and that was the begining of the whole thing because then I knew he noticed me. And for a short while he thought I was college student because when I mentioned where I go to school it was out of state. Boarding school didn't cross his mind. One time Chris ( another intern) was texting me from across the table and sitting next to Him (let's call him Jay) Me and another female intern over hear Jay say to Chris: You should go for her, she's too young and I don't want to hear about it in the papers haha" then from that point on he'd come by all the time stay late all the time always offer to walk me to my subway stop comment on my clothes make silly jokes with me. It was kind of endearing and really funny. They were like playful attacks at each other. He'd be annoying, I'd be mean. He'd make me feel young. Anyhow I was doing a late night and he was too and we wound up be a little more honest with each other and kissing. anyways A lot of the women in the office hated me I couldn't tell why. But this one girl especially (who I believe had a crush on him) would always point out that our age difference was not appropriate (this man btw is was 25 at the time) so basically it got quiet around the office for the last two weeks of my internship and I really didn't hear from Jay.
Turns out My best friend from the interns made a friendship with him (which she really wanted to be a relationship and he asked her for all my contacts). Seeing as I dated Chris the Intern for a short period that summer and she ended up breaking us up she didn't see it as a threat.
Well Jay and I started talking all the time. I would aim him at like 11 before a class.. come back after lunch and be chatting from 3-4 go to another engagement and it was always like that from when he left his house for work to when he was coming back..
We both expressed our attraction to each other.. he even said the reason the women hated me in the office was because all the guys in the office spoke about me only.."she has legs for miles" "did you see what she was WEARING today?!" and all of them would have gone for it but I was under aged.
so he and I got to a point where we were going meet up for sex (this was definitely more artfully expressed from the man and I was def low on security) in December of '08... Somehow when we did meet up.. we ended just bullshitting around Soho. seeing a movie and getting dinner. which he did get a kiss out of ..
Then Our conversations starting moving over to his wife, how he hates her, how he does everything, how she 'makes me feel like her child', how she's not active at all during sex, how she's needy and aggressive and dissmisses him infront of his friends and family and how she manipulates the kids to make them think something of him that isn't true.
I never ever worked to destroy their marriage
I always told him to cut her some slack and to consider her position in certain instances and other times I told him to consider the kids and how they fight and disrespect each other in front of them, that's what they're kids are going to believe is a healthy normal relationship. change how you communicate with her jay.. is what I would say..
then the convo would magically come back to me and how sexy I am and how I'm not a typical high school chick because when we talk I'm on his level and such (he'd say your boarding school did a great job)
this was the pattern for a while..
Then one month NOTHING! he and his wife were working it out.
At this point minus two kisses our relationship was mostly an emotional affair and as emotionally bonding as it can be I still didn't start to feel attachment to him or need him.
they were working on thing I was like that sucks but.. okay bye.
at the end of the month we pick it back up again "that ***** doesn't change he says" and now he's all up in my arms whiney..
so that august '09 he was like send me some sexy pics and I do.. he likes them and doesn't delete them... she accidentally takes his phone to work that day, and she sees them and proceeds to call me every two minutes at 7 in the morning
I pick up (its a blocked number so I figure it was a cute boy I know and put on my I wake up sounding cute voice) I say hello?
she's like hello? oops def got the wrong number. (thinking the cute voice on the phone does not matchTHAT body that was a little girl) she calls again like do you know a ja*****or a j******(sorry don't want the names) and I'm like no (not lying just registered it as does that name own this phone or live at this address) she's like sorry. then she calls back again when I finally realize OH **** ITS SA***********she knows!! I freak out I try to text ja***** and say she knows because she was calling from a work phone I didn't know she had the cell phone at that particular point so I'm texting him like SHE KNOWS and she's reading it. and then I told her look I'm 17 I met your hubby when I was16 and nothing even happened.. This is the most that goes on. she hangs up.. he calls me later that night like no, don't worry, don't be sorry it's not your fault. he's leaving her house for a while.
So the next year the conversations are milder and we're actually getting to know each other outside of eroticism I learn about his father in law and his dad and his parents relationships and some family and things he did as a kid and all that good stuff and I liked really knowing it was so cute.
I Could feel literally his transition from lusting after my body to liking who he knows
remember when he said meet to have sex? well now he wanted to just come out to where I live and take a walk and get a kiss if I let him. (those were HIS WORDS)
and he'd say I miss you, why'd you leave me.
and he would call to say good morning
like all the cutest stuff everrr..
So i started to feel soo strongly about him and school was about to end and I was already eighteen and he was like A, we gotta make this happen.
and I was like I know.. (Iwas actually proud we made it through 2 years without being physical (just 2 kisses))
so it's a time in his office every year when things are hectic and no one goes home any earlier than 9...so he had a lot of time at work to talk to me, and he was like so when are we hanging out with eacother miss?
and I'm like you're the one with restrictions like work and the wife
and he's like.. well I may not have some of those restrictions any more and he's like.. I packed up and left
and I was so shocked
kind of sad because it was their sucky relationship that facilitated ours, and I already recognized the larger role I might have to play the responsibility that could be coming. he's mine now so I inherited her worries ( I DEFINITELY DID THIS WEEKEND!)
so even though work was still hectic.. we went out friday and it was the BEST DATE EVERRRRRRRRRRR.
and some of the best kisses ever.
and it was just so sooo sooo great.
like I haven't had that light headed smiley best sleep ever after because of a great guy and he gave me that.
I texted my bestfriend like I'm so glad I waited!
It's so true what they say. The slower you move with a relationship the greater the value of each thing is. (I considered it waiting for the kiss since we hung out on other occassions void of kisses and also physical erotic things too but NOT SEX(haven't done that yet)
HE then texts I had an amazing time with you last night I can't forget you and I hope the feeling is mutual.. please let me see you again. goodnight
I say you def will ;) goodnight
and it's just been blissful.
but I keep feeling the worry that she must have felt all weekend.
I decided to leave him be because I don't want to bother him while he's doing the most important work he does all year.
Even the Ex confirms that sometimes Jay is there all night working.
but I keep feeling like maybe he's talking to someone else.
and maybe his whole thing about me being the youngest girl ever strangely (because he dates older women, even his wife, she's older) isn't true.
I don't know if I can't believe him
while I definitely have a thing about finding fault in a guy before he does me in and leaves.
and also, I think he moved back in. I find myself wanting to have sex with him so that he wakes up again. but that would be so stupid.
you can't win a man with sex.
and yet what am i winning? what if I really am the only girl in his life at the moment?
I have no proof, but I think that I'm right.
Turns out My best friend from the interns made a friendship with him (which she really wanted to be a relationship and he asked her for all my contacts). Seeing as I dated Chris the Intern for a short period that summer and she ended up breaking us up she didn't see it as a threat.
Well Jay and I started talking all the time. I would aim him at like 11 before a class.. come back after lunch and be chatting from 3-4 go to another engagement and it was always like that from when he left his house for work to when he was coming back..
We both expressed our attraction to each other.. he even said the reason the women hated me in the office was because all the guys in the office spoke about me only.."she has legs for miles" "did you see what she was WEARING today?!" and all of them would have gone for it but I was under aged.
so he and I got to a point where we were going meet up for sex (this was definitely more artfully expressed from the man and I was def low on security) in December of '08... Somehow when we did meet up.. we ended just bullshitting around Soho. seeing a movie and getting dinner. which he did get a kiss out of ..
Then Our conversations starting moving over to his wife, how he hates her, how he does everything, how she 'makes me feel like her child', how she's not active at all during sex, how she's needy and aggressive and dissmisses him infront of his friends and family and how she manipulates the kids to make them think something of him that isn't true.
I never ever worked to destroy their marriage
I always told him to cut her some slack and to consider her position in certain instances and other times I told him to consider the kids and how they fight and disrespect each other in front of them, that's what they're kids are going to believe is a healthy normal relationship. change how you communicate with her jay.. is what I would say..
then the convo would magically come back to me and how sexy I am and how I'm not a typical high school chick because when we talk I'm on his level and such (he'd say your boarding school did a great job)
this was the pattern for a while..
Then one month NOTHING! he and his wife were working it out.
At this point minus two kisses our relationship was mostly an emotional affair and as emotionally bonding as it can be I still didn't start to feel attachment to him or need him.
they were working on thing I was like that sucks but.. okay bye.
at the end of the month we pick it back up again "that ***** doesn't change he says" and now he's all up in my arms whiney..
so that august '09 he was like send me some sexy pics and I do.. he likes them and doesn't delete them... she accidentally takes his phone to work that day, and she sees them and proceeds to call me every two minutes at 7 in the morning
I pick up (its a blocked number so I figure it was a cute boy I know and put on my I wake up sounding cute voice) I say hello?
she's like hello? oops def got the wrong number. (thinking the cute voice on the phone does not matchTHAT body that was a little girl) she calls again like do you know a ja*****or a j******(sorry don't want the names) and I'm like no (not lying just registered it as does that name own this phone or live at this address) she's like sorry. then she calls back again when I finally realize OH **** ITS SA***********she knows!! I freak out I try to text ja***** and say she knows because she was calling from a work phone I didn't know she had the cell phone at that particular point so I'm texting him like SHE KNOWS and she's reading it. and then I told her look I'm 17 I met your hubby when I was16 and nothing even happened.. This is the most that goes on. she hangs up.. he calls me later that night like no, don't worry, don't be sorry it's not your fault. he's leaving her house for a while.
So the next year the conversations are milder and we're actually getting to know each other outside of eroticism I learn about his father in law and his dad and his parents relationships and some family and things he did as a kid and all that good stuff and I liked really knowing it was so cute.
I Could feel literally his transition from lusting after my body to liking who he knows
remember when he said meet to have sex? well now he wanted to just come out to where I live and take a walk and get a kiss if I let him. (those were HIS WORDS)
and he'd say I miss you, why'd you leave me.
and he would call to say good morning
like all the cutest stuff everrr..
So i started to feel soo strongly about him and school was about to end and I was already eighteen and he was like A, we gotta make this happen.
and I was like I know.. (Iwas actually proud we made it through 2 years without being physical (just 2 kisses))
so it's a time in his office every year when things are hectic and no one goes home any earlier than 9...so he had a lot of time at work to talk to me, and he was like so when are we hanging out with eacother miss?
and I'm like you're the one with restrictions like work and the wife
and he's like.. well I may not have some of those restrictions any more and he's like.. I packed up and left
and I was so shocked
kind of sad because it was their sucky relationship that facilitated ours, and I already recognized the larger role I might have to play the responsibility that could be coming. he's mine now so I inherited her worries ( I DEFINITELY DID THIS WEEKEND!)
so even though work was still hectic.. we went out friday and it was the BEST DATE EVERRRRRRRRRRR.
and some of the best kisses ever.
and it was just so sooo sooo great.
like I haven't had that light headed smiley best sleep ever after because of a great guy and he gave me that.
I texted my bestfriend like I'm so glad I waited!
It's so true what they say. The slower you move with a relationship the greater the value of each thing is. (I considered it waiting for the kiss since we hung out on other occassions void of kisses and also physical erotic things too but NOT SEX(haven't done that yet)
HE then texts I had an amazing time with you last night I can't forget you and I hope the feeling is mutual.. please let me see you again. goodnight
I say you def will ;) goodnight
and it's just been blissful.
but I keep feeling the worry that she must have felt all weekend.
I decided to leave him be because I don't want to bother him while he's doing the most important work he does all year.
Even the Ex confirms that sometimes Jay is there all night working.
but I keep feeling like maybe he's talking to someone else.
and maybe his whole thing about me being the youngest girl ever strangely (because he dates older women, even his wife, she's older) isn't true.
I don't know if I can't believe him
while I definitely have a thing about finding fault in a guy before he does me in and leaves.
and also, I think he moved back in. I find myself wanting to have sex with him so that he wakes up again. but that would be so stupid.
you can't win a man with sex.
and yet what am i winning? what if I really am the only girl in his life at the moment?
I have no proof, but I think that I'm right.
By:
MrsRight
Age:
18-21
,
Female
