I Am Dating a Married Man
I will begin by saying that I had no intention of ending up in this situation. I realize that I made choices, some of which were not the best, and that my circumstances are a direct result of my decisions. I would appreciate it if people would keep their insults and negativity to themselves, and only offer insightful and meaningful responses. I will start at the beginning so that I can provide everyone with all of the details.
I myself am a single, strong, and independent woman. I have a very lucrative career, which occupies the vast majority of my time. Additionally, in my career I am often the subject of the public eye. Nearly two years ago, I was at a public relations event, several women who work in the same field as myself, decided to go out for a few drinks following the event. I decided to join them, and along with us came several of the men also attending the event. A few drinks turned into many drinks, and this is where my story begins.
One of the men who came with us, would eventually turn into my lover. He is a very prominent public figure (he is not involved in politics), and the two of us got to talking and dancing in the bar. One thing led to another, and with alcohol lowered inhibitions, the two of us spent the night together. I was unaware at this time that he had a wife, and two small children. The relationship became strictly sexual, and we met up once or twice a week as my work schedule would allow. Slowly we began to see each other more and more, and instead of strictly having sex we started to go for dinner and weekend trips. It was around this time that I learned he was married. Once I learned this, I ended my relationship with him. I was horrified, and angry that he had deceived me.
Ending the relationship was extremely difficult because I had developed loving feelings towards this man. I was shocked when I received a phone call from his wife. When she told me who she was I expected to be called every name in the book, however what I heard was the complete opposite. She told me that she had known about our relationship, and she was upset with me for having ended it. According to HER, their marriage was loveless, and they had both been seeking love in extra marital relationships. She told me that she wanted our relationship to continue, because after my leaving him, he had told her he wanted a divorce. She relies on him financially (he keeps her in designer clothes), and she was hoping that if I took him back he would be willing to return to their previous arrangement.
After this phone call, I immediately called him on his cell phone. He came over, and my intense feeling took over, and we instantly began our relationship again.
We got together nearly a year ago, and we are still together today. Since then we have been spending even more time together, and because his wife knows we often spend the entire night together. I have even scaled back my work, because I honestly think that I may have found the one.
This finally leads to my question. He has been consulting with a divorce lawyer, and is nearly ready to serve her with papers. I thought this was what I wanted him to do, but I am beginning to feel bad for his wife. Should I feel this way? I want to be with him, but I also feel bad for "stealing" him from her...
Any help would be greatly appreciated!
I myself am a single, strong, and independent woman. I have a very lucrative career, which occupies the vast majority of my time. Additionally, in my career I am often the subject of the public eye. Nearly two years ago, I was at a public relations event, several women who work in the same field as myself, decided to go out for a few drinks following the event. I decided to join them, and along with us came several of the men also attending the event. A few drinks turned into many drinks, and this is where my story begins.
One of the men who came with us, would eventually turn into my lover. He is a very prominent public figure (he is not involved in politics), and the two of us got to talking and dancing in the bar. One thing led to another, and with alcohol lowered inhibitions, the two of us spent the night together. I was unaware at this time that he had a wife, and two small children. The relationship became strictly sexual, and we met up once or twice a week as my work schedule would allow. Slowly we began to see each other more and more, and instead of strictly having sex we started to go for dinner and weekend trips. It was around this time that I learned he was married. Once I learned this, I ended my relationship with him. I was horrified, and angry that he had deceived me.
Ending the relationship was extremely difficult because I had developed loving feelings towards this man. I was shocked when I received a phone call from his wife. When she told me who she was I expected to be called every name in the book, however what I heard was the complete opposite. She told me that she had known about our relationship, and she was upset with me for having ended it. According to HER, their marriage was loveless, and they had both been seeking love in extra marital relationships. She told me that she wanted our relationship to continue, because after my leaving him, he had told her he wanted a divorce. She relies on him financially (he keeps her in designer clothes), and she was hoping that if I took him back he would be willing to return to their previous arrangement.
After this phone call, I immediately called him on his cell phone. He came over, and my intense feeling took over, and we instantly began our relationship again.
We got together nearly a year ago, and we are still together today. Since then we have been spending even more time together, and because his wife knows we often spend the entire night together. I have even scaled back my work, because I honestly think that I may have found the one.
This finally leads to my question. He has been consulting with a divorce lawyer, and is nearly ready to serve her with papers. I thought this was what I wanted him to do, but I am beginning to feel bad for his wife. Should I feel this way? I want to be with him, but I also feel bad for "stealing" him from her...
Any help would be greatly appreciated!
By:
tc333tc
Age:
26-30
